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My husband and I both do the grocery shopping. Sometimes one of us feels like dealing with the kids and one of us wants to escape to the market. On this day, he did the shopping.

Which is how we had an argument over Life cereal.

I blame Quaker Oats.

Well, he says it was a discussion. I called it an argument. We argued about that too. Or rather, discussed it.

Trip to the Grocery Store #1

I asked him to get Life cereal at the store and he forgot.  This has happened before so I gave him an idea.  I mentioned that if he would cross items off the list and double check the list before he leaves the store, he wouldn’t forget anything. Ever. And how awesome would that be. For everyone. Because today it was my cereal. But tomorrow it could be his Baked Doritos.

“Not possible. I cross things off the list. I double check the list. And sometimes I will forget things. But it’s not a big deal because it’s just a box of cereal,” he explains.

“I know it’s just cereal. But I still don’t understand. It’s a fool proof system. If everything is crossed off, then how can you forget anything?” I ask.

“It’s a long list. I might forget to cross something off. I might not notice that something is not crossed off when I check out. I will try. But prepare yourself. Something will be forgotten. What are you so upset about anyway? It’s just a box of cereal,” he says.

I KNOW IT’S JUST CEREAL. But I love that sweet crunchy awesomeness that is not sitting in my cabinet but rather sitting on the shelf at Stop & Shop. Oh, I don’t know.  Maybe it’s about my hair. Or that I don’t get enough sleep. Or that Harlowe won’t eat baby food. Or the fact that I truly don’t get why a guy who has this freaky ability to remember the words to practically every single song out there and can quote baseball plays from 1953, can’t cross items off a grocery list. I JUST DON’T GET IT.

Trip to the Grocery Store #2

Rick is back at the store. He forgets chickpeas.

“Why didn’t you get chickpeas?” I ask.

“Because they weren’t on the list,” he responds.

“But didn’t you telepathically know that I wanted them?”


Trip to the Grocery Store #3

This time I go to the market.

“Did you go the store?” Rick asks.

“Yes, but I forgot a bunch of stuff because half way through I totally lost the list. How does that happen anyway? I even retraced my steps but nothing. I still had my deli number in my hand.  So I just bought deli meat, ice cream and Life cereal and then left.”

P.S. It’s really hard to cross items off the list and double check the list when you lose the list. I hope my husband prepared himself that some things would be forgotten.

P.P.S. Grocery shopping is hard.

P.P.P.S. I really started craving cereal during the writing of this post.

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22 Responses to it’s really possible to argue about cereal

  • Mmmmm cereal! I already was pushing my calorie count with brownies tonight, so this is probably *not* what I needed to read, but —

    Man, we’ve had so many grocery trips like that. My fiance tries to do me a favor but forgets something (or flubs up the coupon bit and pays waaaay too much!) and I end up getting all huffy and going myself, or one of us takes the baby and either makes her miss naptime or she gets all worked up or…

    Seriously, as soon as affordable grocery delivery works its way to this area (and accepts coupons!) I’m looking forward to a much, much simpler life.

    Hope you enjoyed your cereal, at any rate!

    -Karinya @ Unlikely Origins

  • Kerri says:

    Too funny! I thought it was the kids that were going to be fighting about the cereal! Dh & I have this type of discussion on a regular basis. Me:”Honey, it is great that you got ___ &___, but where is the one single thing I asked you to buy & that you went to the store to get in the first place?”. Dh “I forgot it. But at least I remembered to go to the store!” And he wonders why I call him to remind him of things! Yet he can remember hole 16 that was a par three on some golf course and what year it was & who he was playing with & even the weather that day. Oh he even asked me my birthday to make sure he filled out some forms right because after 25 years of marriage (this fall) he can’t always remember since his ex-girlfriends was the day before mine! “Is yours the 28th or the 29th, dear?” Ugggh!

  • Megan says:

    Yum. I must add Life cereal to my shopping list. I now do most of the grocery shopping and I always forget something. At least I don’t get angry at myself so there are no arguments, or discussions, involved.

  • erinb says:

    I send the hubby to the grocery store with a list and he is very good- he wont even substitute items w/o calling- I am pretty sure cuz he knows how sleep deprived I am and could crack at any minute so doenst want to face my wrath. That and if I go we spend 3x more money…

  • Heidi says:

    I *hate* grocery shopping. My husband tries to make into a fun family activity but I’d really rather stay home alone. I’d eat saltine crackers every meal, every day if it meant I didn’t have to go to the store. And I can get wine at the wine shop, which is not remotely close to being a grocery store. So there, crackers and wine. Who needs fruit or chicken or anything else at the market?!

  • Becky says:

    When I have sent my husband to the grocery store, he always comes home with about 17 things that were not on the list at all. The majority of them from the snack/candy/processed food aisle. And that is why we now go grocery shopping together.

  • Bitsy says:

    My husband and son went to the grocery once. They came home with mac and cheese, hotdogs, oreos, pudding and root beer.

    LIFE is my favorite – yum!

  • My husband often offers to grocery shop, because it will “help me out”. But if I have to write down the exact seven-word name of the item, the color of the item’s box, the aisle it’s in and what other items it’s near, I’m not saving a whole lot of time. God bless him.

  • Alecia @ Hoobing Family Adventures says:

    My husband always seems to forget one item at the grocery store which I would totally give him a break about but it’s usually the one missing ingredient to a recipe at which point all of the other recipe ingredients are now wasted… They try, right!?

  • Ha! This is such a funny post. My husband and I squabble all the time over stuff like this – and we forget about it minutes later until the next thing like this happens. I love it!

  • Dusty Earth Mom’s comment killed me.

    We divide shopping duty too for the same reason you named. He’s incapable of buying snack stuff and I’m incapable of buying meal provisions.

    Cereal is probably the cause of most struggles in the world.

  • Exactly. If I have to write it all down on a list, then I might as well go to the damn store bc I do most of the cooking – and the nights I don’t cook, the minions on bicycles bring us food in brown paper bags. Husband says “just tell me,” and I say well, look in the cupboard and see what we need. He says howzzat? So kudoes to you for letting go and letting hubby shop. But fucking up the cereal purchase? that’s huge.

  • Cool Dad says:

    FreshDirect sometimes sounds like the greatest thing in the world to me. Until I remember that it’s prohibitively expensive and doesn’t even deliver here.

  • red pen mama says:

    Aw heck, this isn’t an argument about cereal, this is an argument about grocery shopping. Discussion, rather.

    This is an argument about cereal. Husband: “Why do you buy this cereal?” Me: “It’s high in fiber. I need high-fiber cereal.” In my head: it’s your fault because pregnancy completely ruined my ability to do certain things without fiber. Husband: “well it tastes like cardboard.” Me: “It’s not that bad.” Husband: (snort) Me: “Fine, you go shopping next time and get whatever kind of cereal you want. Just don’t forget my high-fiber cereal. And stop putting sugar on the kids’ cereal. It’s already presweetened.” Husband: “They like it with more sugar.” Me: “Fine, then you take them to the dentist and explain that.”

    See? Two fights — discussions — in one! 🙂

  • Tara D. says:

    I’m the one do some grocery shopping because hubby don’t want arguement or discussion … first time here but i enjoy reading all your blogs.
    great post!!

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