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I feel like I’m always try to reassure my husband that our 3 1/2 year-old’s behavior is COMPLETELY NORMAL for her age.

Like when Dylan wakes me up in the morning by licking my arm.

Or when she kisses every page of the book I’m reading her.

Or at night, when Rick says to her, “Honey, it’s bedtime. Why aren’t you sleeping?” and she responds, “I am sleeping. In a different way. With my eyes open.” Oh, that’s cool. I should try that. I’d get so much more accomplished.

Or when she wears my nude, control top pantyhose to the playground.

Or wears this outfit to the water park on a gorgeous sunny day, despite my suggestion that a bathing suit and flip flops might do the trick. Rainboots? Really!?

Or when she insists that her sister Summer needs to wear a down winter coat on an 80 degree day.

I double insisted that Summer did not.

No worries Rick. I see lots of young kids in the neighborhood and they are all just as nuts. But he always looks at me like he’s not quite convinced. Like perhaps we are inadvertently raising some kind of irrational wild thing.

This past weekend, a colleague of Rick’s told us about an experience she had, in an elevator, with her 5 year-old son.

A very heavy woman got on the elevator and her son said quite loudly, “MOMMY, SHE’S FAT.”

I mean, wouldn’t you just crawl into that musak box right then and there?

Of course, the mother made him apologize and the woman was very gracious about the whole thing but still…

I think I’ll stick with my kid who likes to wear control top panty hose.

Oh and I’ll also keep the other one who wears pink, princess heels to the beach.

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I’m crying in my crab cake sandwich over the closing of New York City’s campy French diner, Florent. You can read more at New York City Moms Blog.

As some of you know, my husband has Crohn’s disease, a debilitating and sometimes life threatening disease that causes painful inflammation of the digestive tract. Since his own diagnosis 17 years ago, medical advances have been made. But instead of becoming less prevalent, Crohn’s is becoming more and more common. Almost a million and a half Americans are now suffering from this disease and many of them are young children.

This week I’m giving away some beautiful note cards, created by artist Alexa Maizes, a 10 year-old suffering from Crohn’s Disease. She also sells her note cards on her website and a portion of the proceeds go the Crohn’s & Colitis Foundation of America. Just leave a comment this week on the mama bird diaries and you are entered to win.

This week in NYC, Rick will be helping to raise money to find a cure for Crohn’s. If you feel like donating click here.

To view a Fox 5 NY piece on Rick click here. I even make a cameo! And you can’t tell I have a poochy, mama belly!! Oh, and Rick is pretty good too.

59 Responses to is my kid weird?

  • Quirky is fun – at least, when they are little. You can always send her to a military boarding school to straighten her out when she is 12.

    Why is Crohn's getting more common? I know 3 teens who have it. Could it have something to do with all the drugs they dump down our kids? Not to sound like a crank or anything, but I've got to wonder…

  • calikim says:

    Those Pink Camo rain boots are FABULOUS!! I wonder if they make them in my size?? I must get a pair.

    As for children calling people fat….I hate to admit it, but I've done it. Aunt Marcia took me to Ice Cream when I was 4….one of MANY times in my lifetime (but I am sure that was the last). I asked her why she wasn't eating any. She said she didn't want to get fat, and I told her, "but Marcia…you are already fat!!!" Yeah, I will NEVER live that one down. She doesn't take me for ice cream anymore. Just Drinks!! ; )

  • kelsey kleiman says:


    The pantyhose, did she wear them on her head or legs.

    who wants to be "normal"?

    Dylan sounds awesome. I wish I knew her better. Were the pantyhose on her head or legs?

    I was told kids start dressing themselves at

    five. Leila has had strong opinions since one

    year old. Her style is not nearly as cutting edge as Dylan though.

    This post might look funny. I'm having technical difficulties on my iPhone.

  • francine Kasen says:

    Quirky is interesting. I married it, I gave birth to it. I'm never bored. Remember, kids will do what works. If it gets her your attention…good or bad….she'll keep it up!

  • Jennifer H says:

    She totally rocks those rain boots.

    And at least she wasn't that little girl on the elevator. πŸ™‚

    I checked out Alexa's site–she's an amazing artist. Will definitely have to buy something from her shop.

  • kristen says:

    i used to put my tights on my head, to make long hair.

    for about one year, my girl wore something princess every single day – over jeans over everything.

    for another year, her outfits (chosen entirely by her) were a cover your eyes and scream kind of riot of color and patterns…

    it does pass and that's the saddest part, when they finally become self conscious and realize that being 'normal' is what makes you like everyone else.

    i have one friend that's quite heavy and she was watching my girl for us one night. as she was putting her to bed, she told my friend she looked like a pumpkin. luckily my friend took it in stride and said it was a nice thing to be called, all things considered.

  • Jacki says:

    Please tell your husband that your daughter is completely normal, if normal is anything like my Emma. Our daughters could be twins!! I am still embarrassed about the day we were in a store, and a large woman walked pased us. Emma yelled out "Wow, mom. she has a big butt!!"

  • Robyn says:

    A normal kid is a BORING kid. Dylan's a free spirit and she's lucky to have parents who allow her to express herself.

    Last night, Bear walked around the bedroom with my bra on his head singing, "walk-een, walk-een" Hubby was horrified. I'm pissed I didn't take any pictures!

  • Iliana says:

    I guess that once you have a kid you understand the word "Normal" does not apply at all. "Unique" however does, and I think what you have is a Unique Child. Good luck!

  • Robin says:

    An individual quirky sense of style is what she has. Embrace it. She may just grow up to be a fashion designer!

  • wa says:

    Jack once wore a Superman muscle suit to the Austin zoo. But at least that kind of thing takes the pressure off what I wear because it's not like anyone's going to notice me when there's a superhero around.

  • Becky says:

    Your kids are awesome! And they will grow up to be loving, free and happy girls who don't pass judgement all because their mom let them wear what they wanted. Really. Trust me on this.

  • Michelle says:

    I love that you let her express herself. She will never have a problem speaking up for herself or expressing herself in life. You are raising a confident young lady and you you should be proud!! (Plus, I'm thinkin chances are, she's a good democrat in the making!!)

  • Nap Warden says:

    OK, I got the kiddo who wears one princess shoe, a pirate belt, striped capris, with a flower shirt…pointing at the large woman and saying "is that the wicked queen"!

  • Mary says:

    Great piece on Crohn's…..I was diagnosed 6 years ago and after way too many trips to the ER I had surgery 3 months before my wedding. It's nice to see that it is getting more exposure and people are becoming more aware of what it is and can do to someone. I am always worried that my son will get it but as my husband says the advances they keep making are huge and people like your husband, who are willing to take about it publicly can only help that!

    OH….and your kids are just trendsetters, nothing wrong with that!

  • Daphne says:

    I love the crazy outfits on your beautiful kids. I will be sad when my girls start matching socks to shirts and all that other nonsense and we totally lose the wackiness of their little free spirits.

  • misty says:

    o had no idea your husband had Chrohns… My husband was tested for it a couple of years ago. What a great effort he is going to to raise awareness/support…

    and yes, i love individual little children and much prefer them over flat out tactless ones!

  • Jessi says:

    Your whole family is gorgeous!

    I have a daughter who loves to dress in some quirky ways too, but she's outgrowing it more and more the older she gets. Now I'm the one who's pushing the tutus and pettiskirts b/c I'm scared of losing that area of her life I guess.

  • feener says:

    love the high heels on the beach. my youngest loves high heels, she can run, climb, and do anything in them. i have let her where her mismatched crocs out bc whatever she needs to feel ok is fine by me.

  • Tori says:

    i think your kids are fabulous. what is normal anyway? thanks for the focus on crohn's –i've had the pleasure for a little more than 10 years. Another organization doing great work for IBD is Get Your Guts in Gear (www.ibdride.org)

  • Pecos Blue says:

    Your children sound wonderful and maybe it is a guy thing I feel like my husband is asking me that all the time. Just the other day my son had some dried food on his face and husband exclaimed does he have cancer what is that on his face!

    Good luck with the fund raiser.

  • Nancy says:

    My son wore a Pirate costume every day for a year and my daughter wore a tutu every day during the same period. I miss those days. It's the sweetest time – when there's no self consciousness about anything. Enjoy it!

  • Laura says:

    I'm so glad to hear that my daughter isn't the only one with a penchant for licking. The things that come out of their mouths at that age are so funny! Thanks for sharing.

  • Aunt Marcia (Guess W says:

    I used to take my neighbor's daughter for ice cream ever since she was old enough to sit in my car without a car seat. I'd join her in having some. One day I got her ice cream, but didn't order any for me. She said, 'Marcia, aren't you going to have ice cream?" I told her, 'I don't want to get fat'. Her reply at 5 years old – "BUT YOU ALREADY ARE FAT'. Got to love those kids…

  • Buffy says:

    hey dude normal sucks.

    I have one that used to run around my sectional sofa, from one end to the other, naked (of course), yelling "WEINDER PEINDER WEINDER PEINDER!" Uhhhhhhh yeah….

    I have another who likes to shout in the ladies' garment department of THEE WAL-MART (yea I'm a friggin' luuhoooser) "Maa, what size DO you wear—I don't see BIG FAT BUTT-SIZED???" Seriously, normal is way too over-rated. Anyone can have a normal kid but the universe picks someone reeeeeaaallly special to have a freaky deaky lil monkey! I got 4–what's that tell ya?

  • Pearl says:

    my mother always, always let me style myself and i am forever greatful she did. now, i can tell people stories of when i wore a floor length velvet gown to group picture day in the 3rd grade or about the period of time i insisted on wearing my hair in six braids because i wanted to be like bo derek in "10". <-uhm, apparently mom didnt censor my movie choices either?

    so i have to agree with everyone else, your kids are fabulous, not weird at all =)

  • ErinB says:

    better to wonder if she is weird than wonder if she is boring :-} Miss D is fun, fancy and fabulous…just like her mama!

    tell Rick great piece too! what a cute family

  • Erin says:

    Your piece on the news was fantastic and of course you looked smashing! Sorry to hear about your husband's disease. And you DO have a beautiful family (and I'm not even on drugs!) πŸ™‚

  • Rhea says:

    Kids are supposed to be fun and weird and do wild things. I love it! Yours sound hilarious. I love the odd outfits and heels on the beach.

    Sorry to hear about your husband's disease. I know that's a tough one.

  • Abby Siegel says:

    Buffy-your comment made me laugh out loud hysterically. Thanks for that as I needed it. If the day came where my child proclaimed I was "big fat butt-sized" that little one would not have a meal that evening. But then again what do I know. All I know is that I hope you didn't take it too personally because it's really funny to read it as an outsider. I work with teenagers and sometimes they say the damnest things too.

  • That was so funny. I actually laughed out loud at the sleeping with her eyes open.

    When my son was 3 we were sat next to some Muslim women with their black yashmaks on and he said very loudly: "look at those funny black ghosts!"

  • J. Fergie says:

    if your kid is weird, mine need to be committed.

    and the princess shoes? they are going to be the death me. CLICKETY-CLACK, CLICKETY-CLACK…all. day. long.

  • mp says:

    A 10 year old with Chrons? I cry foul..that is NOT fair.

    I have a feeling that your kids will be "one of those"..you know the kind that the stuck up barbie doll girl is secretly jelous of since your daughters will have natural beauty and confidence and not care what everyone else thinks.. Oh and style!

  • Cathy says:

    Last summer my younger son only wanted to wear blue clothes, so I totally understand. He's mellowed out since then, thank goodness. You guys look great in the news piece–thanks for sharing.

  • Rob Stewart says:

    I LOVE your blog. Thank you for bringing such an enjoyable experience in the midst of crazy days. Every time you post, I take a break and delve right in. You are the best, KK.

  • I think it's a bit weird that my Josh likes to kiss spiders and pretends to be a T-Rex every time his baby brother cries…I guess we all need coping mechanisms. Fashion seems like a great one to me…

    That story on Chron's was really interesting and inspirational. I had a roommate who had chron's – Rick's positive attitude is to be envied and those cards are certainly beautiful.

  • Angela says:

    I’m so glad my daughter isn’t the only one that wears those god awful plastic princess heels. EVERYWHERE. At least I’ve gotten her to the point that she can wear them to the car, and in the car, but out of the car she has to wear her “boring” shoes.

  • pamela says:

    Let me know whenever you write anything about Crohns, as you know my ten year old has it too. We just did the walk in S.F. Love your blog! We will be in NYC on July 13- 19, on the Cape now.

  • Kimberley says:

    Thanks for the linkup. I will definitely go buy something from her shop, to support the cause for her as well as your husband.

    Your girls are sure a couple of cutie patooties. Enjoy them while you can. My boys are now 13 and 14 and I miss terribly those days of unabashed self expression.

    For instance, we used to live in a small town without much cultural and racial diversity. It was “white city” basically. One day, in the produce dept of our local grocer, my 3 year old son spotted an African American man. He yelled out and pointed, “MOM, LOOK! It’s a CHOCOLATE guy!”

    I nearly died from embarrassment. The man was very nice though and flashed him a wink and a big smile.

    Ah, kids. They keep us young, humble and perpetually horrified. God bless em.

  • bee says:

    my brother an i were diagnosed with crohns when he was 3 and i was 5 (my mom said she knew i had it younger then 5 but 5 was when i was diagnosed) it was rare.. well i didnt know anyone else who had it other then my brother until this year a girl from work was just diagnosed at 27 i think she was and she says her 5 year old son has the same symptoms she does but the doctors wont even look at him they say “hes to young to have crohns” which i think is horrible and no ones to young to have it just most people don tget it until they are older. I also loved this article to cute and no your kids arent strange!

  • Peter in Denmark says:

    Nah, there’s nothing particularly weird about that. All kids do strange things — they’re just exploring the limits of “normal” behaviour. Kids investigate the world and its nature, it’s what they were meant to do.

    Besides, if your kids were to be considered “too weird”, mine would be ready for the padded cells.

    Hmm… come to think of it… :-O

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