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An 85-year-old woman was once asked, “If you had your life to live over again, what would you do differently?

And she answered that she would live more in the moment, pick more daisies and ride more merry-go-rounds.

It’s good advice for those of us who aren’t yet 85 although I might caution against riding too many merry-go-rounds unless throwing up more is also on your Things To Do Before You Die list.Β  Which if it is, carpe diem!

It all got me thinking about my twenties and thirties and how I might do it differently if I had those decades to live over. So here’s my list….

I would go on a trip to Australia. 23 hour flight. 4 kids. How am I ever going to get there now? By the time I do, I will be 85.

I would worry less about NYC parking garages scratching up the fender of my Jeep.

I would not purchase leather pants.

I would study a little less hard because it doesn’t really matter if you graduate with honors. But missing a road trip to Vegas is something you regret.

I would go to Vegas.

I would stop wasting so much energy on guys that didn’t call and pay more attention to the ones who made me laugh.

I would run a marathon. Okay, maybe a half marathon. Make that a 5K. Alright a one mile fun run.

I would only see the first “Pirate’s of the Caribbean” movie. The 37 sequels unnecessary.

I would be more diligent about wearing sunscreen. SPF 4 Coppertone does not count as sunscreen.

I would take time to look in the mirror and appreciate my pre-baby ridiculously flat stomach. Instead of seeing flaws where there were none.

I would stop looking for my future husband and know I would find him at the right time in the right place. And if that didn’t happen, I would hunt him down.

I would listen to less “Hootie & the Blowfish” because I still can’t get those dumb songs out of my head. “Cause the dolphins make me cry?” Come on.Β  What a pansy.

I would go to more movies.

I would kiss more boys. Actually scratch that. I really kissed plenty.

I would move to California for awhile and live by the beach.

I would ask my late grandparents more questions about their lives.

I would invent the iPad.

20 Responses to if i had my twenties and thirties to live over again….

  • abby says:

    Oh sweet pea, you had your chance at 19 to go to Oz with me!!! Bygones…..it’s awesome, come with me on my house swap any time!

  • Jordana says:

    You can still run the marathon!! I’m planning 2013 – if I can do it, you know you can! After we’ll celebrate in Vegas – hey bat mitzvah venue anyone?

  • luvmypeanut says:

    I think I would take my birth control pills a bit more effectively and not willy nilly…..

    I would have gone backpacking in europe

    I would have gone to medical school

    i would not be so afraid

  • Lindsey says:

    Would you mind if I did my own version for my own blog? I will obviously credit the idea as yours, but I had a list of my own formed before I even finished reading this.

    Great list, by the way!!! [PS, you can still go to Vegas! When the kids are old enough, leave them for a long weekend with a person/ppl you trust, and see Vegas the adult way with your hubby- shows, gourmet food, fabulous shopping (still do all the ‘what happens in Vegas’ stuff and just dont write about it!)] πŸ™‚

  • Nancy in Montana says:

    I too love this list and I remember your Jeep and think I may remember one or two of those guys that made you laugh ;-). Now I too, am inspired to do my own list. Thank you for yours!

  • Maura says:

    Best list ever.

    I loved the appreciating pre-baby stomach.
    Let’s all have a moment of silence for pre-twin bellies…

    I’m now going to make a list of how I’m going to appreciate my 40s!

  • Jacqui says:

    laughing and crying at the same time, although I have done some of what I wanted to do, I wasted a lot of time on the past and people who weren’t worth it. Now 40 is a turning point and I’m working on my new list still has some pre-40 goals, but I’ll get there by 85 at least πŸ™‚ and leaving the past behind me.

  • Melanie says:

    Oh if I could get a redo one some of those years, I would. Great post! I would have focused more on my passion and nurturing it, weight training! My priorities wouldn’t have been trying to meet Mr. Right, as I am not sure he really even exists. Instead, I would have realized Mr. Right for me was God Almighty but also would have focused on raising TWO Mr. Rights for the women later in their lives. Those being my two beautiful sons. Regrets oh regrets how you keep us living in the past. Thank you for this post that has me thinking deeply on this beautiful Sunday! God bless! (Oh, and my site is still a work in progress) as the techical side of things is obviously not my strong point – yet.

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