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8 week-old Chase has been having some issues. He spits up constantly and just often seems physically uncomfortable. So I brought him to the pediatrician and she suggested that since he’s breastfeeding, it might help if I temporarily cut dairy and spicy foods out of my diet.

Unfortunately that leaves me with a diet comprised of baked chips, peppermint patties and Chardonnay.

But I love my boy and I will try. We’ll see if it helps.

Meanwhile, on Wednesday night, I had to get out of the house.Β  I shoved myself into some tummy sucking Spanx-esque underwear, flat ironed my hair and went to dinner with some girlfriends.

On my way home, I called Rick to see how he was faring alone with four children.

“So how is everything going?” I asked.


“Are you sure? You don’t sound sure.”

“Well, by “good” I mean no one has gone to the emergency room. There is no bleeding.”

“Oh dear. The twins have been tough?”

“Yes. I mean I just wanted to have dinner. JUST dinner. But they wouldn’t stop crying. How am I supposed to hold them and make dinner?”

“I’m sorry. I’ll be home soon.”

But when I walked in the door, everyone looked just fine to me…

Next time, Rick gets a night out.

mama bird notes:

I have to give a special shout out to Sue who sent me the most adorable baby gifts and presents for the whole family all the way from New Zealand. Thank you Sue!!

36 Responses to a mother of four must get out of the house

  • Mary says:

    I’m off dairy too for my little one. He is 7 weeks old and has ugly reflux so we thought cutting the dairy would help. I have found that almond milk is *almost* as good as regular milk, I would suggest it! : ) Good luck and I admire you, I’m hardly hanging on with just one … you’ve got four to handle! You inspire me! πŸ™‚

  • Jennifer says:

    Ok – as a pediatric nurse, a mother of four breastfed babies, and somebody who helps with lactation issues routinely, you do not need to cut dairy or spicy food out of your diet. that is such a farse i cant believe peds docs are still telling people that!
    the only reason to cut out dairy is if he is having frank blood in his stools – then he has true milk protien intolerance. he is spitting and fussy – he has reflux. put him on reflux precautions/ and or ask your doc for some meds for the poor baby.
    sorry you are having a time – getting the right tx might help though.

  • Momcat says:

    Yes they always like to punish the poor breastfeeding mom like she’s not getting punished enough with being up most nights. If I had had to cut out dairy I wouldn’t have had anything to eat! Good advice Jennifer. The twins look great with their doting dad.

  • Nicole says:

    Awesome photo. Silly daddy, doen’t he remember you don’t get dinner untli they are at least 6 months. I’m so glad you got out of the house, I’m sure you looked gorgeous.

  • Bitsy says:

    Kelcey, I cut out dairy and my dietician dad told me it was wrong. I didn’t listen and did it anyway because the baby was so miserable. It didn’t do any good. I hope he feels better soon!! He’s getting the very best food in the world!

  • Lisa says:

    I am so happy you got a night out! But did you really go out with girlfriends or did you check in to a local hotel and sleep?! That is what I dreamed of doing every day for the first 8 months!

  • johanna says:

    classic picture! my husband would have had a stroke if I left 4 kids with him so hooray for Rick for tackling it!!

  • Off most dairy here too for my 5 month old. I didn’t even know it was an option with the twins, so they went on reflux meds, but cutting dairy really seemed to help this time. It’s so hard when they are hurting and there’s not much you can do for them immediately. Good for you for getting out! That picture is frame worthy.

  • Kim W. says:

    I was off dairy for 10 months with my 3rd boy. When I would eat dairy, within 12 hours he would have cold symptoms (clear runny nose), and soon after that, he’d consistently cough and gag on mucous in his throat and vomit his breast milk (ALL NIGHT LONG). Once I stopped eating dairy, he was back to normal within a day. Our doctor was not convinced it was dairy, but I was. (I tried to reintroduce dairy every two months — same result each time.) When he was a year old, he and I could eat dairy with not problem.

    I believe that milk protein allergies in infants can manifest in many different ways. Good luck, and I’m sorry this limits your diet so much. Luckily, I have two lactose-intolerant people in the house, so it wasn’t completely terrible all the time.

  • Coma Girl says:

    Love, love, love that picture. If I worked with Rick, that picture just might make it on the air at some point πŸ˜‰

    Hope you enjoyed your night out!!

  • If Chase has green, frothy poops, it may just be a foremilk/hindmilk imbalance. In that case, keeping him on the same breast for 3 or 4 hours (rather than switching) may do the trick.

    Although – maybe you already have a twin assigned to each breast?

  • mayberry says:

    The spitup (or mystery stain) on Rick’s t-shirt is a nice touch.

    I can’t believe you’re so good about blogging. No newborns in my house and I manage to post 1x/week if I am lucky!

  • Tess says:

    I hate putting in my two cents, but in my experience with two 34 weekers, along with the advice of a pediatric dietician, eliminating dairy isn’t necessarry…the number one food to eliminate is onions, in any shape or form. Babies cannot digest the sugar found in an onion. The other one they cannot digest is tomatoes. I cut both out of my diet and the difference was amazing.

  • Aunt Marcia (Guess Whose?) says:

    You mean Dylan can’t cook dinner yet? What are they teaching that girl in school? Photo is great…

  • Rebecca S. says:

    Very interesting comments. I do agree with Jennifer- breastfeeding an infant and being sleep deprived is hard enough without giving up a main food group. Many of my friends’ babies have had reflux and the Zantac or whatever they put them on works very well- you may just have to play with the dosage. And it sounds like you should stay away from onion rings!

  • Peta says:

    That guy is a prince! But you already knew that. Definitely should be your holiday card. And it sounds like Chase is having relfux, NOT dairy intolerance which won’t be improved without correct treatment, no matter what you eat. Just my 2 cents…..hope he’s feeling better soon!

  • sara says:

    Such a cute pic, Kelcey! Hope you guys had fun Wed night, sorry I missed it. Glad to see you’re hanging in there (sort of) – and I agree with previous posts re the reflux. The only thing that helped us was meds – and worked fast. Good Luck mama!!!!

  • Elissa says:

    my daughter had reflux but she was gaining well anyway so we just treated it with mylanta (pediatrician’s suggestion). that helped make her feel better and she outgrew it gradually – stopped spitting up by about 8 months. my son has green poop and bad gas and i’m trying the dairy free thing. been a week now with no change – giving it another week but seems like we may just have to wait for him to outgrow it too.
    good luck! i found the amy’s veg enchiladas (which are non-dairy) are a pretty good lunch option – quick and easy and surprisingly tasty. sorbet does not cure my ice cream craving but bittersweet chocolate is good enough to get by on.

  • Amber says:

    Alexa had reflux for over a year. Did they test for it before you guys left the NICU? Ours did a 12 hour test with a sensor down down her throat. She was on liquid Zantac for ages, but it made her SOOOO much better. Good luck!
    BTW, we breastfed too, but no matter what I ate, she was still refluxy without the meds (doc had us try to wean a few times to see if she had grown out of it).

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