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Are you familiar with the vacation jinx?

This is how it goes. You JUST start dating a guy and things are going really well. You’ve got chemistry and he’s constantly calling you (in a sweet, new romance way, not in a weird, suffocating way). You have a great feeling that this relationship could actually go somewhere. You imagine that your kids will be named Tabatha and Finn but you’re totally flexible because you realize a good relationship is about compromise.

And then one of you has a vacation or business trip. The trip could be a few days. It could be a week. It doesn’t matter because by the time you or your new boyfriend returns, the relationship is totally over.

The magic has just somehow disappeared, never to be rekindled again. The mysterious, inexplicable vacation jinx.

Well, marriage apparently does not make you immune.

Rick and I had accepted an offer on our apartment and we were drawing up a contract when our buyer went on vacation. To Costa Rica. For a week.

And that was the last we ever heard from him.

So he’s either trapped in the Costa Rica jungle and Spider Monkeys have stolen his Blackberry or he decided not to buy the apartment.

Either way, it’s obviously over.

On the sunny side, we’ve had a lot of interest at our open houses and Rick and I know there’s a cuter, richer, more perfect buyer out there for us. A buyer with no vacation plans.

28 Responses to the vacation jinx

  • Jessica says:

    maybe he died.  I have to say that is so so so true however.  It never fails when I would meet a guy. One week things are great and of course he has a three week trip planned ten days later and then nada

  • Jennifer H says:

    You could stipulate that any offers must contain a no-travel clause. Or just print out a bunch of copies of this post and hand them out at the door.

    But I wouldn’t burn any candles that might make buyers think of beaches (coconut) or skiing (pine). That’s just solid common sense, right there. 😉

  • Bitsy says:

    Rats! We had the same thing happen to us and the next buyer that came along had cash and wanted to close in a week. We moved ourselves and our two little kids in 4 days.

  • christy says:

    Oh that totally sucks, but I have to say, I’m relieved – because I thought you were going to say that you and your husband were having that problem! Whew! I’m sure you’re right – there’s a richer, better buyer out there for you!

  • Terra says:

    my brother went to Costa Rica a few years ago and came home married.  Now, in his defense he with his GF he had had since Highschool…but boy oh boy…guess he is immune from the vacation jinx

  • kelsey says:

    the other day when you posted about calling Rick, stressing him out then telling him you had to go…well, that really made me laugh!

  • tracey says:

    Oh, frack. I’m sorry.

    At least it isn’t what I THOUGHT you were writing about which was a divorce. Seriously, I thought you were leading up to that and I was clutching my mouth and gasping “Oh no!!!”


  • Cathy says:

    when we were trying to move back to CO, the first buyer fell through, too–man, that hurt. The anticipation kills. But you’ll get a better offer soon!

  • MN Mama says:

    bummer….  when we sold our first place we had a few weird things happen like that.  I hope the next offer is the right one.  Hang in there my friend!

  • MN Mama says:

    Bummer…. we had a similar experience selling our last place.  It all worked out.  I hope your next offer is one that lasts!  Hang in there friend!

  • amy says:

    The same thing happened to us while we were selling our house. They loved it, put in an offer, even haggled with us over some shelves that I wanted to take with me, then they went on a family trip and 3 weeks later we finally heard they weren’t moving after all. Very frustrating!! But hey, at least I got to take my shelves 😉

  • SoMi's Nilsa says:

    Oh now that’s frustrating. But Costa Rica is a pretty kick ass country, so there’s a very real possibility your buyer found something to buy there. Here’s hoping you get that kick ass buyer you’re looking for!

  • ErinB says:

    so wait, how is this related to gossip girls? :-}
    anywho- I am confident you will have a better offer- one that will make you  forever grateful that other dude totally bit it in the jungle. sending good real estate vibes your way!!!

  • That is why I handcuffed my husband to the bed when I went on vacation during out 5 years of dating.  I knew he’d be there when I got back (minus a few pounds, of course).

    Thanks for stopping by Sweet Life the other day!

  • Suzie says:

    Apparently I missed this blog the other day! Sorry to hear your buyer dropped out–but you are right,  someone richer, cuter and more classy will come along and make you a better offer. Hang in there!

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