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Since I had twins, I’ve sort of wondered about the twin connection.

You know, one twin eats an apple and 3,000 miles away the other twin is at the grocery store and inexplicably decides to buy an apple pie. For no reason at all.

Gives you goose bumps right?

Ok, I’m sure they’re are better twin synchronicity stories. But you get my point. And don’t even get me started on all the ones from Elizabeth and Jessica Wakefield of Sweet Valley High. Would blow your mind.

I hadn’t really noticed anything with Chase and Harlowe.

I guess because Chase doesn’t eat apples and Harlowe rarely does her own grocery shopping.

But then it happened.

For two nights in a row, the twins woke up at the same time.

And now you’re thinking, big stupid deal Kintner… they share a room.

BUT THEY DON’T. Not yet, anyway.

Right now, Chase sleeps in the twins’ room.

And Harlowe sleeps in a pack and play all the way downstairs.  Yes, all the way downstairs. And yet, they started crying at practically the very same moment. So I think this is pretty cool and freaky and awesome.

Until I realize that for two nights in a row, we left the monitor on downstairs.

So basically, Chase was waking up and crying.  Harlowe heard him on the monitor and started crying too.

Which I guess is sort of a high tech 21st century twins connection.

Just a little less cool and a bit less freaky and not really all that awesome.

mama bird notes:

I had the unique opportunity and by unique, I mean one of hundreds, to do a guest post for Marinka’s blog, Motherhood in NYC.  If you don’t read Motherhood in NYC, you must because she is absolutely hilarious.

And on The Mouthy Housewives today, I’m answering a question from someone who wants to opt out of Valentine’s Day. And on Babble NY, I’m writing about a family dance party this weekend and the best high chair ever.  Man, is that enough to read or what? Hope you’re not in a book club too.

23 Responses to the mysterious twin connection

  • Kerri says:

    There are still twin connections between different sex twins. It seems to be closer with same sex twins. I have my dad & father-in-law to attest to their connections with their twin brothers & they had other siblings so had something to compare it to.

    Then there are my identical twin girls. They finish each other’s sentences and it is one fluent thought! They don’t usually freak out that one has interrupted the other. It is freakish for new people they meet. Friends they have had since they were toddlers, don’t bat an eye! Adults have the biggest issue with it. When doing activities they often don’t even need to talk. They work together very well on stage (musical theatre) as well as doing back-stage stuff. The two of them can help get another kid changed faster then any two adults. My other kids who are about 2 years apart also have some of this communication ability. But I think it is because they are together a fair bit & do a lot of activities together (with others too) and they have developed the ability to communicate in non-verbal ways. You may see that later since too you’ve taught your kids sign language too!

    Also twins tend to get along better with other children and develop play skills sooner then those children that are singletons. Chase & Harlowe have the advantage of older siblings too, so more advanced play is often seen with kids with older siblings. My grandson has been around my kids a lot and he is only 2 years younger than my youngest. People are quite shocked at his ability to communicate with anyone. He is around people of every age so he knows how to use his cute factor with all & any of them :)!

    It is all so very interesting!

  • Elizabeth says:

    Holy moly, you get around! And I don’t just mean via satellite (well, by proxy via monitor–or something like that.).

  • I’m so fascinated by all that twin stuff. Especially when it, ah, actually happens.

    BTW – LOVED SVH. Had all the books. Kinda wish I’d kept them, but then I doubt my boys would want to read them. *sigh*

  • Shannon Maida says:

    Super cute! BTW…..LOVED your guest post! Between you and Marinka, my 4:30am wake up calls are a little more hilarious!

  • OHmommy says:

    Every time I see your post pop up in my reader I click on it and say to myself (in my head) “Oh… lucky me. Another Mamabird post.” Pretty sure that someone 3000 miles away is thinking the same thing. It’s a blogger connection.

  • Ann's Rants says:

    I can’t believe you are giving this away for free on your blog. Please tell me you’ve at least given Spielberg a pass at this.

    Congrats on the Babble gig! I saw your cute head over there yesterday.


  • annie says:

    I had twins too and they did the exact same thing. Well actually i gave birth to them 13 months apart – but they still woke each other up. I know, freaky right?

  • Valerie says:

    My twins will be one this weekend and I can honestly say that I haven’t seen any sort of twin anything yet. Their relationship is just the same as the relationship between my older two. Nothing weird. I keep waiting and nothing!

    Mine share a room and don’t even wake at the same time. They don’t get upset when the other isn’t in the room (to nap/sleep as well).

    Everyone told me to wait for this huge twin thing and here I am still waiting. Oh, and mine are identical boys.

  • Leigh Ann says:

    I know you read my review on the book One and the Same several months ago, and there was a part in the book where the author was interviewing adult male (identical) twins who said that they could will each other to call the other. She tried it one day and kept thinking “Robin, call me,” over and over, and she did! When she asked why she called, her sister said, “I have no idea. I just felt like I needed to.”


  • Aunt Marcia (Guess Whose?) says:

    Get into google and put in ‘twinsburg twins day’ or something like that. YOu’ll see all the photos for the big event over the years…some pretty ugly twins…can you imagine having two babies like that?

  • kt says:

    My 2 year old identical twin boys are ALWAYS doing crazy similar stuff everyday! For example, yesterday one had a cold, and today they BOTH have a cold! One starts grunting to poo, and soon enough the other has a go. Even just this evening, one got mad and pushed the other–and guess what–the other pushed back! There are so many similarities it’s truly just eerie! 🙂

  • Diane says:

    As a 41 year old twinkie, it never ceases to amaze me when my ex-wombmate and I are on the same wavelength of shared humor and movie quotes. It’s wonderful to have siblings but a twin is an extra blessing.

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