the lesson of the silk pillow
My dad’s ex-girlfriend used to have this amazing pink silk pillow. Man, I loved that pillow. It’s probably been 35 years since I’ve seen it and I can still remember how it was perfectly pink and silky and smooth against my cheeks.
When I was a kid, this girlfriend always promised that she would make me one. But she just never did. There was no ill intent. I’m sure she got busy with adult stuff the way adults do.
Now I’m the adult. And for the past two years, I’ve been promising Summer something. A baby book. The girls love to pore over Dylan’s baby book and the inevitable question always comes up.
“Where’s my baby book?” Summer asks.
“Oh, I’m working on it, honey. I promise I’ll do it soon,” I respond.
But I don’t. There are always emails to read, dishes to do or I’m just too tired.
So the other night a babysitter was here. She was reading to the girls while I got ready for a dinner out. Dylan pulled out her baby book and they all started looking through it.
As I put on my lip gloss (because I always wear lip gloss), I heard Summer say, “My mommy is still making my baby book.”
And it completely crushed my heart.
It was the pink silk pillow all over again but this time, I was the one who was letting a child down. My child.
The very next night, I never put on the TV. I never turned on my computer. I let the dishes sit in the sink. And I sat down to do what I should have done two years ago.


I made that girl a baby book.
Because some promises must be kept.
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omg, this post got me all choked up.
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Your job as a mother is done! Now you can sleep better at night. But seriously that is priceless look how excited she is.
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Good for you Mama!!! I never made one for kids #2 and 3, but they are boys and they have never asked for one nor do I think they will appreciate it the way their sister does/will in years to come.
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Ohhh! Well done you. I must do the same.
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You always wear lip gloss?
Even when scuba diving?
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good girl! now if i could just finish the photo albums that never were after 3 years old and a digital camera…sigh.
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oh, *sniffle*…..made my daughter the baby book as it happened….gorgeous, well documented (in the deepest depth of my Creative Memories phase). did she look at it? not so much. said book nearly destroyed in a flood last year, and you can bet NOW she wants to look at it! (so no matter what, we never get it right)….you might want to keep that book on a very high shelf…….just saying.
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Beautiful post. People forget that these types of things are what make happy children. My boys read through their books all tghe time too
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Well done on fulfilling your promise. Summer is so proud and pleased with her book.
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Awww, so sweet. I too am a bit behind on the baby book. Great post.
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that’s awesome–she looks so happy.
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Oh my gosh…I am so touched by this. Way to go mama – you have totally inspired me to get mine out too. Now I have a mission.
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Very sweet. In the same boat and feelin’ motivated now.
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My mom still updates my baby book. Last entry “Baby has baby.”
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So sweet.
You’re a good mom.
But I’m still not pulling out the boxes of collected crap I have in the closet and putting them in a baby book.
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OMG I have tears! Oh Kelcey you are the best!!!
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You’re a good mother. I winced as I read, because I’m behind a baby book… or two.
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So sweet. My daughter is nearly three and loves to look through all our photo albums, makes me think I should pull out her baby book. You are such a good mom!!
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Yay!
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I’m impressed. All my kids have are stacks of stuff waiting to one day go into a book. Ugh, Can I hire a scrapbookie type to do that for me?
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Kids really love being the “subject” of their stories! If you have the time, take videos too! Jenny is 25 and we just got hysterical watching her 3 and 4 year old video of her antics. We even made her boyfriend watch! They mostly love to hear their little voices! The baby book looks terrific! Very well done!
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Nice work
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Grrrrr…. I have a baby book that needs to get done soon too. Thanks for the motivation. Yay you!
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STOP it!!! i’m BAWLING!!!!
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this one brought tears to my eyes. Well done darling
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What a beautiful post:-) Your daughters are beautiful too!
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Aww!!!! You are a good mommy! I, on the other hand, am a very bad mommy. I’m 12 years behind.
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So sweet! I am behind on such things. Thanks for the inspiration.
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That was a tear-jerker. The pictures of Summer are priceless. By the way, I can see in the pic that you looked gorgeous even in the hospital! To some kids those little promises are huge deals and you have to be VERY careful what you promise, huh? That book was well-worth whatever you pushed aside to make it happen.
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I started Parker’s baby book and have not finished it. Thanks for the kick in the butt!
XO
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The lesson of the Silk Pillow is that if you don’t get something, it’s a special memory forever.
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I think my mother used My Baby Book to add things about her 2nd baby – MY SISTER. I don’t think she ever got a book for her…The first born is the Big Prize…and gets all the attention. And we deserve it; since the parents are experimenting on us…as ‘parents’.
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Neither of my kids has a baby book yet, and the oldest is six. Thankfully, they don’t even know what one is. But yeah . . . I’m gonna have to go offline for a day or two and get those done. This post crushed my heart, too!
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I love this… good for you!
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That’s awesome.
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great post… i must get on that also… and i am so honored to have finally made it to your blog.. even if it is only in a little pix in summer’s baby book:) xo
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Hmmm… did you have to ballpark when she crawled and stuff? I had to do that with #2.
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What a wonderful post. Dylan’s book is great and I am sure Summer’s is a winner also. So proud I also made your post albiet upside down. Love Bubbie
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Very impressive Kelc! Hopefully, I will get motivated to do something about the shoeboxes of pictures I have . . .
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