With my first baby, I obsessed over pacifiers. It didn’t help that when Dylan was about 2 months old, some woman came up to me on the street and said, “I hope you are going to get rid of that.” She meant the pacifier. Not the baby.
Yo, people on random streets – we don’t care what you think!
Except I did.
I talked passionately about the pros and cons of pacifiers with anyone. I mean, why else did I get a graduate degree if not to prepare me for the rigorous debate over how infants soothe themselves?!
At 7 months old, I got rid of Dylan’s pacifier. We were done.
Next came Summer. Summer would not take a pacifier. Damn her.
Then the twins. Chase had mad reflux and a pacifier really calmed him down. Harlowe would take it too when she felt like it. But before a year, the pacifiers were gone. I had watched too many parents struggle to get their 3 and 4 year olds off the things. It’s a tough addiction. I didn’t want to go through it.
So before the twins’ first birthday, I threw every last pacifier in the trash. Except for one that I found in the pocket of a winter coat about a year later. I left it there. To this day, it reminds me of my babies when they were babies.
Then Cash came along. Now and then he’ll take a pacifier but he’s not super jazzed about them.
My relationship with the pacifier has gone from something I feared to something I respect. What I came to love about them is that you can take them away at some point. I was a thumb sucker as a kid and you can’t remove your thumb. At least not easily.
I found it very hard to quit sucking my thumb and didn’t want my kids dealing with that. I wanted them to live in a better America where they didn’t have to fear getting caught sucking their thumb at the bus stop.
But I guess Cash isn’t consulting me.
That kid loves his thumb.
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