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Okay, spoiler alert about the world…

It didn’t end on Saturday.

I’m now going to be giving a lot of spoiler alerts because a reader was upset I let it slip that Tim Riggins is in prison on “Friday Night Lights.” The sad part is NBC really missed an opportunity here to show a hot, sweaty, shirtless Riggins working on a chain gang. But anyway, I promise to not reveal any more FNL secrets in case some of you are not caught up on the show.

Man, wait til you see Tami Taylor hooking up with Buddy Garrity.

Seriously – that was the last one.

So the world didn’t end.

Which I’m kind of glad about. Especially because it was the twins’ 1st birthday.

And you know it’s a really sucky birthday if the world ends.

We gave them cake for the first time.

Cake is so awesome.

We got the rare chance to take a family photo…

Hold on a second. One, two, three, four, five… Where is Summer?

Oh there she is… sulking and refusing to be in the photo. Someday I’ll ask her why.

This weekend, I felt the words of Anna Quindlen echoing in my ears…

“But the biggest mistake I made is the one that most of us make while doing this. I did not live in the moment enough. This is particularly clear now that the moment is gone, captured only in photographs. There is one picture of the three of them, sitting in the grass on a quilt in the shadow of the swing set on a summer day, ages 6, 4 and 1. And I wish I could remember what we ate, and what we talked about, and how they sounded, and how they looked when they slept that night. I wish I had not been in such a hurry to get on to the next thing: dinner, bath, book, bed. I wish I had treasured the doing a little more and the getting it done a little less.”

I did not try to create the perfect birthday weekend. Instead, I wanted to really pay attention to these magical beings that are always spinning around me.

I let Chase and Harlowe suck on lollipops for an egregiously long time.

I listened to Dylan tell me about snails and how if you hum to them, they will come out of their shells. Then I listened to Summer tell me the exact same story.Β  I now know a lot about snails. And humming.

I patiently watched Summer put an entire box of candles on the twins’ cake with great big sister pride.

I listened as the girls pranced into the twins’ room at 6:30 in the morning to sing them “Happy Birthday.”

I tried to treasure more.


42 Responses to my twins turned one even though i specifically told them not to get any older

  • Kerri says:

    Harlowe & Chase, Happy Birthday #1! Kelsey…you did it! You made it through your first year with twins! Something only another twin or multiple mom can possibly understand. I hope you took some time to reflect about you and all the wonderful things you have done for H & C during their pregnancy & the past year! You (& a bit of help from your dh!) made those babies, nutured those babies & your milk helped those babies to grow and grow!

    How lucky your family is to have you!

    Kerri {{{HUGS}}}

  • Jordana says:

    Gorgeous twins and gorgeous family. And don’t worry about the lollipops – they’re not even their real teeth!! Don’t they get a whole ‘nother set or something??
    xoxoxo Mazel tov!!

  • OHmommy says:

    Happy birthday to the twins! Now I want some cake. You think anyone at preschool drop off will judge me if I have cake all over my face?

  • amourningmom says:

    Happy Happy Birthday Harlowe & Chase! I am so glad that the world did not end and you could celebrate the first of many many birthdays.

    Love this post and the pictures! xoxox

  • Megan says:

    Happy 1st Birthday Harlowe and Chase!
    Sounded like a perfect birthday weekend!
    Now I’m going to try to enjoy getting the girls
    to school on time. xoxo

  • mackbeth says:

    Sounds absolutely perfect! The photos are gorgeous and it beats having one kid crying in the photo that they are being forced into.
    Glad to hear that you enjoyed all the little things mixed in with a big day to celebrate! congratulations!
    I hope Chase finds those turkey meatballs at the top of the stairs soon.

  • Robyn says:

    Happy Birthday to your beautiful babies and Congratulations to you and Rick on making it through one whole YEAR of having 4 children! You may be my hero.

  • Steph says:

    Happy Birthday babies. Your family is breathtaking gorgeous. Love your words. I’m going to try to enjoy the doing more because I so often focus on the getting it done.

  • Daphne says:

    Looks like a perfectly gorgeous birthday and some treasurable family time. Congrats to your birthday sweeties and on your beautiful brood.

  • Amy says:

    Kelcey, thanks so much for that Anna Quindlen quote- I have tried to express the same thing before, but never half so well.

    Happy birthday to Harlowe and Chase! Congrats for getting IN a photo or two with the kids, that’s something else I never manage to have done when I look back.

    And FNL is sooo not the same without my Timmy.

    (and one is still very very little… what a year you’re about to enjoy with those babies!)

    xo Amy

  • johanna says:

    Happy B.Day to the twins! And congrats to you on surviving their first year! Here is to treasuring family time πŸ™‚ (and just photoshop Summer in because that is an AWESOME family pic!)

  • Nancy Walton says:

    Happy Birthday to the cutest twins EVER! Loved the post and all of the pictures, but that post-birthday-cake photo of the twins – PRICELESS!! πŸ™‚

  • francine Kasen says:

    I remember mike’s first birthday! He loved his cake so much, he put the empty dish on his head, sticky-side -down, which made my sister-in-law Vicki VERY happy I had seated her at the far end of the table! She still talks about it, how I didn’t freak out or anything! That does not mean that Mike didn’t give me sh*t to freak out about later in life!
    HBTY>>>HBTY>>>HBC&H>>>HBTY !!

  • Jessica says:

    I had that kind of weekend, too – where we just hung out with eachother instead of trying to hurry hurry hurry and get everything done. I’m having a second child in about a month and get all weepy thinking about how little time I have left to spend a whole weekend with just the oldest.

    P.S. That family picture is awesome and someday Summer is going to be disappointed she’s not in it.

  • tracy says:

    Happy Birthday to your sweet babies. Wait – you waited until they were one to serve them cake? I thought after baby #2, that all babies were allowed cakes by 3 months, lollipops by 2 months and beer at 1 month. Did they not come with the proper manual?

  • Fordeville says:

    Happy birthday to your gorgeous babies! Is it ok if my post-cake face, many years later, is still that messy?

    I needed that Anna Quindlen quote. Seriously. Thank you.

  • Ann says:

    Oh, but Kelcey this blog is all of your noticing, and that is why people flock here.

    Happy birthday to all of you! A whole year of twins. Phew!

  • Kim says:

    Thanks for the reminder Kelsey! I should try to live in the moment more! All you need is cake to make it a party at this age, or any age! Great pictures, thanks for sharing!

  • Aunt Marcia says:

    Take lots of movies/videos….with sound…..it captures the moments way better than any photos. The twins get cuter every day, when does it stop?

  • tracey says:

    One?!? ONE?!?!?!? How did this happen? How does it ever happen? Happy Birthday to your babies. And I’m glad you’re trying to treasure it more…

  • Jackie says:

    Wait… what?? I can’t believe a year has gone by so quickly! Happy Birthday sweet babies! Way to be such great big sisters and sing the twins happy birthday. That was very sweet of you girls. πŸ™‚ Also, way to stay in the moment mom. It is so hard to do when life happens.

  • Jenn says:

    Good for you! I’m old now (ehem… not that old!) and so I want to watch every second of the Bunny’s growth and I want to enjoy life with her – she’s got it down; If you love it you jump, clap and kiss it, and if you don’t you just sweep it off the table… hard!

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