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On Wednesday morning, I asked myself one of the big parenting questions of our time….

Is it acceptable to bring a cup of coffee on a school tour?

My husband and I are currently looking at public and private school options for my daughter Dylan. This means an abundance of school tours across the city. So the coffee question is at the very front of my caffeine-starved mind.

Is it inappropriate in some way? Like showing up to a job interview in jeans, with an Egg McMuffin and a newspaper?

Somehow it just felt wrong.

But as I trudged down Hudson street, at 8:20 on Wednesday morning, to attend my first Kindergarten public school tour, I felt the desperate need for a little caffeine.

I decided to grab a small cup and toss it if it seemed disrespectful in anyway.

When I arrived at the school, all the parents were ushered into a big room and one of the parent coordinators stood up to welcome us to P.S. 3.

He had dyed red hair.

A goatee.

8 thick, silver rings on his fingers.

And he was holding a cup of coffee.

Ok, I was definitely in the clear.

Then I looked around at the other parents and spotted actor Paul Rudd, also holding a coffee.

Now I’m way in the clear.

If Paul Rudd can drink coffee, I can certainly drink coffee. Isn’t that the celebrity transitive property or something?

Speaking of celeb sightings, the other day I strolled past Debra Messing of “Will and Grace” fame. How funny and entertaining and sassy and red headed is she? I just love her. I am so glad I was wearing lipstick. Can you just imagine seeing Debra Messing and your lips are all naked and chapped?

I spotted her on 12th street, in front of Industria Studio, in full hair and makeup, wearing a bathrobe and smoking a cigarette.

I guess she was on a break and in the middle of a wardrobe change for some kind of shoot.


They drink coffee! They wear bathrobes! They smoke cigarettes!

They really are just like us!

Why do I ever doubt US Magazine?

mama bird notes:

As many of you know, my friend Kristin recently lost her husband Mario to cancer. Next week, I am joining her, and their 4-year-old daughter Julia for the Light The Night Walk.

The walk pays tribute to the thousands of patients battling blood cancers and remembers the ones who have lost their lives. Please consider donating on Kristin’s page.

Also this month, Silicon Valley Moms Group has partnered with DonorsChoose.org, to help spread the word about the lack of funding and support needed for our public schools. Through DonorsChoose.org, teachers request what they need and explain how the money will benefit their classroom. Please consider giving a donation (even a small amount) to one of the following regions…

Thanks mama birds!

38 Responses to must ring emily post

  • Cathy says:

    Wow, how stressful trying to figure out school options in the city. That’s one of the reasons why my husband and I moved to the burbs. I would SO NEED coffee–so glad it’s in the clear for you!! πŸ™‚

  • Marinka says:

    Haha, I thought you meant if you could bring a cup of coffee on a field trip, when you’re a chaperone. Which is weird because you said “on a school tour” not “field trip”. So, do other people sometimes start to comment and the comment makes no sense but they can’t manage to stop. maybe because of too much coffee?

  • Stephanie says:

    I kinda have a thing for Paul Rudd…not sure exactly what it is about him. I’m a bad mommy-I’d pick that school so that I might see Paul Rudd on a regular basis! πŸ™‚

  • Nap Warden says:

    Ugh…don’t even get me started on the school topic. It’s hard in The Big City:P I think I’d go with the Paul Rudd one and call it a day;) Why can’t I be you? I need a celebrity to point the way….

  • My brother passed away several years ago now from from Leukemia. Our family made it an annual tradition to form a team for the Light the NIght Walk for several years. I can’t say enough about all the help we received from the Leukemia and Lymphoma Society while he was sick. Although a lot of the funds received go to research, they also help patients financially to help lighten the crunch placed on a family during an already horrible time.

    I’m sorry for your friends loss.

  • Kim says:

    I totally love Paul Rudd.. and the other day down on Bowery I saw Don Cheadle.. and he totally littered.. so not cool..

    Oh.. so back to your point.. ENJOY YOUR COFFEE!!!!!

  • Jennifer H says:

    Since everyone is glomming onto Paul Rudd, that leaves Deb clear for me…and guess what? We both have red hair now! She would totally want to be my friend just because of that. Right?

    I said…right?

  • Madge says:

    How tempted would I be to send my kid to that school, just on the chance that I could see Paul Rudd on a regular basis, with or without coffee? hmmm. good thing I don’t live in NYC.

  • elizabeth says:

    I could not handle going to the same school as Paul Rudd’s kid. I would have to get glammed up every day just in case I saw him. And then I would have to worry about the harm to the families when he and I ran off together. Just kidding. I would just make a fool out of myself quoting his lines from Knocked Up.

  • myhouseof6 says:

    so you get to choose your public school? i mean, we are separated by district markers, so where you buy your home chooses your school, unless you pick to send to private.
    interesting… the choices would overwhelm me.

  • Jordana says:

    Oh Kelcey, I would have put your mind to rest vis a vis the coffee question re: public schools. Private, I don’t know so much about but NYC Public Schools, anything goes! (Just not political buttons if you’re a public teacher!)

  • Robin says:

    Paul Rudd is probably my favorite hottie that’s close to my age. He’s SSSOO cute. And hilarious. Now, there’s a reason to move to the city from the burbs! Well, he’s from New Jersey, so maybe I have a shot at seeing him some day…

  • Robyn says:

    I actually HAVE Emily Post’s (ok, her granddaughter re-wrote it) encyclopedia on etiquette. I will consult and get back to you.

    Although the “if Paul Rudd can do it, so can I” approach works for me!

  • jean says:

    I remember living in nyc and knowing friends who had kids (that was before I had kids) and trying to find good (safe) schools and putting their kids in private Catholic schools even if they weren’t Catholic…Oh yeah, it’s the coffee/cigarette diet–it so works! (lol). Oh, and I also love Paul Rudd! He was so cute in ‘Knocked Up’, ‘Clueless’, ‘Anchorman’–well not cute in ‘Anchorman’ so much, but soooo funny! Jean

  • MN Mama says:

    I would need something stronger than caffeine for the school thing out there…. probably something like an imitrex for a migraine. You are fine with coffee!

  • Valerie says:

    I thought I was the only one who had a thing for Paul Rudd! Kelcey I follow the policy that coffee is acceptable at any meeting or other event that starts before 10 am (11 on weekends).

  • Rhea says:

    I’m so sorry about your friend’s husband. That just kills me, in a sad way. :o(

    Coffee is totally acceptable. I don’t drink it but a good hot chai tea is just as acceptable.

    Good luck searching for schools. Don’t get caught up in the silly stuff though…

    And Debra Messing smokes?! ICK. I love her though.

    Did you see The Starter Wife? Too cute.

  • Sally says:

    Whether private or public, your children are bound to hang out with quasi-celebrities if they grow up in NYC. My son Flynn graduated from a Brooklyn public high school last year. Among his friends are Louisa Gummer (daughter of Meryl Streep), Atlanta de Cadenet Taylor (daughter of John Taylor) and an unmentioned Gossip Girl. Actually, the Gossip Girl isn’t really a friend but Flynn had to rescue her from herself at a party. He brought her to my house, cleaned her up and saw her home safely in a cab. (I raised him right)! I feel for your school search. Honestly, it never ends. We got Flynn through the university search – and he’s very happy with his choice – but now we’re on the high school prowl with my daughter Abby. I bring two cups of coffee and might take up smoking!

  • misty says:

    your friend’s loss is horrible… I am so sorry to hear that…

    Somehow I imagine that NYC parents wouldn’t even consider going to any school event without their coffee cup in hand? How naive of me…

  • tracey says:

    Ok, first of all, I am baffled by this post. So many things that are NEVER gonna happen in my neck of the woods! And I had to google Paul Rudd, but then I was all “Oh! THAT guy!” and then I thought that this in itself would either make me DEFINITELY choose that school or definitely NOT choose it. Hmmmm. I’m fickle so I can’t decide which way I’d go.

    So sorry about your friend’s husband…

  • Jennifer says:

    Darn, I was supposed to go to the open house at PS 3 and decided to go next week…I would have had the pleasure of seeing you, and oohhh, Paul Rudd (mad crush!) Would love your thoughts on 3. This lottery between 3 and 41 is kinda annoying. Seems like yesterday we were wondering who would host playgroup that week…

  • I wouldn’t have given it a second thought, my dear! I’m going to be checking out daycares for my littlest one next week as I will be returning to full time work — I’ll be clutching his hand in one and my coffee in the other! Mummy needs caffeine!

    Now, a flask of hot tea, that’s a different matter? Hmmmm!

  • shay says:

    I am so sorry about your friends husband. i can’t imagine. it’s one of my worst fears come true. Hug his little girl tight!

    And I think coffee is always appropriate…I’m pretty mean without it so the alternatives are not great!

  • JoLynn says:

    Wow, you get alot of comment’s in a hurry!!! Iam with you as far as the coffee goes!!! Consider yourself a star!!!! You are in my book!!

  • Jessica says:

    decisions, decisions, decisions… Have you picked up that book yet called The Ivy Chronicles? You will laugh your way through all the antics these characters do to get their kids into the Best Schools!

    Debra Messing is hot shit. I definitely would need my lipstick on.

    It’s true though (what someone else said) running into celebrities in NYC in inevitable. Phoebe Cates went to my school. (She is a few years older.) Robert Redford and Ralph Lauren were neighbors. Bill Murray and Dustin Hoffman were always sighted in my hood. It just kinda went with the territory. It sure was fun.

    No celebrities here in CT though. None at all… oh, so sad… Paul Newman was such a presence here and is still terribly missed. If you ever find yourself in Westport you have to stop off at his restaurant called The Dressing Room. It’s wonderful. Now, how the hell did I get so off topic?

    Bring the coffee!

  • Man if I had a school tour in the afternoon that might be wine in the coffee mug. I have to say I was usually the only one with coffee on our tours, but then again Paul never showed up πŸ™‚ Ahh, I love your blog.

  • scrappysue says:

    so you’ve finally had your celebrity sightings kelcey – i’m happy for you lol!!! i’m so glad i got to meet you and your gorgeous family last night! i hope everyone got a great sleep when you all got home! your girls are precious

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