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When we lived in New York, I was a half hour from my mom. Now we are a plane ride away.  And I’m really feeling her absence.

I don’t have a typical mother.

She has 3 masters degrees and a PhD. And she once remarked about a gorgeous bouquet on my counter. It was a strainer full of radishes.

She is incredibly well read.

She has spilled coffee and coffee grains so many times in my home that I banned her from making coffee.

She has no knowledge of pop culture unless it has made its way to public radio.

Even though my tween is so over Justin Bieber. My mother isn’t.

At the age of 12, I told my mom I would do my own laundry because she had ruined so many of my clothes.

At the age of 42, I fired her from folding my kids’ clothes (and I have five kids) because she seemed intent on folding them into weird little crooked shapes. She refused. And kept folding.

She is one of those people who can sleep at night with their cabinets wide open.

She is incredibly compassionate.

She loves her dogs as much as she loves her friends. And that’s a lot.

She doesn’t notice dog hair.

She once told me my newborn baby looked like her dog. It was a compliment.

The back of her car often looks like she’s holding a tag sale. She’s not.

She is a survivor.

She has unbelievable determination.

She believes the best in people.

She thinks 89-year-old George Bush is young.

She can make me completely crazy.  In about two minutes.

And I miss her making me crazy.

I miss her purse, with the ink stains and millions of plastic bags hanging out of it.

And her other bag with 50 pounds of reading material.

I miss the way she folds the laundry into weird little crooked shapes. Because that means she’s been with us. Shuffling around our home, spilling coffee grains and loving everyone here.

Cash and nanny


36 Responses to let me tell you about my mother

  • Penny says:

    Oh Kelcey, I’m sorry. That just must be so hard on all of you being so far away from each other.
    My daughter bought the house behind mine, and I know both of us would be lost without each other, and her kids would be too. So I can really understand how this must just be awful for you, not to able to just throw the kids in the car and go see her. Or, more likely, have her come hold some babies for you. This move has been HARD.

  • Mary says:

    Oh man, this post, spoken in earnest really made me tear up. Nothing is harder than leaving your life behind, and yearning for it back…I am exactly your age, and starting anew is hard, especially since you loved your life here in NY so….

  • Susan Kintner says:

    You know me too well…And I miss you too, every day, all the time and my laundry does not hold a candle to yours and I miss it. love, mom (But thanks to you I do close my cabinets….most of the time.)

  • Kimberly says:

    Kelcey- this was beautiful! your mom truly is so special and i can completely relate to missing your mom! and your family in general;) xo

  • Carinn Jade says:

    My mom is just as different from me, and I love her just as much. My husband and I might have to move to LA for his job and I worry so much about missing her. Just like this.

  • Tracy says:

    What a great post! Made me laugh, cry, and miss my mom like crazy. She passed away three years ago yet I still pick up the phone to call her. I lived about 1,000km away from her, but we still spoke on the phone every night. I can still see all the mints and pens at the bottom of her purse lol!

  • Steph says:

    What a beautiful, heartfelt tribute to your wonderful mom. I can so relate. I have lived in Austin for the last 20 years and my mom still lives in Kentucky. She has recently retired and now plans to winter here. Maybe your mom will winter in sunny Florida.

  • Princess Judy says:

    I have to say that I found these sentiments to be really heartwarming and sweet, definitely you miss your mom. I felt that and I envied it a bit. So this is what you normal families are like, huh? Me, I am plotting to get an entire continent between me and my mom instead of just a mere state line. Y’all are sweet though!

  • Megan says:

    Heartwarming! My mom gave me the gift of gradually missing her by becoming a “Snow Bird” who travels south for the cold winter months, but they have put the house on the market so sadly it will become permanent too soon. Perhaps your mom will do the same thing and come stay with you for the winters! Hugs!

  • miamimommy says:

    My heart goes out to you. I am also a flight away from my family. But I am here in Miami like you, and if you’d ever like to meet up with kids in tow
    (my two are 5 years & 18 months) at a park or playground, it would be our pleasure to meet you. (I know that it is not easy to get out with an infant and no sleep in what may be years). We live in Miami Beach and my email is Amycox123@aol.com. Wishing you all the best, and I’m wishing you a house full of family visiting when the snows begin up North!

  • julie says:

    Kelcey you know I’m a huge fan of your blog but now I’m a huge fan of your mom. Made me tear up. Mostly because I realized I’ll leave my kitchen cabinets open until my kids grow up to tell about it. I side with your mom. Cabinets are meant to be opened and shut eventually. Give Rick a big hug for me.. And tell him not to worry I used to run out of gas all the time when I lived in Florida. When I was in highschool.

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