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Feb
03
2012

The twins super size nursing pillow.

May 2010 – February 2012.

I’ve put old glory out to pasture. Look at that beauty with her faded denim and husky frame. I spent so many nights with that gal. She traveled with me. By car. By plane. She was always up for an adventure. That pillow was Chase and Harlowe’s second home from the time they came home as preemie’s until about 36 hours ago.

Yes, I just stopped nursing my 20-month-old twins. Most people think I stopped nursing months ago. Mostly because when they would say, “Are you still nursing?” –Β  I’d say, “Heavens no! Do I look INSANE?!”

But it’s hard to stop nursing your last. At least for me. I feel sad. Like a part of my maternal mission has quietly come to an end.

I don’t think of breastfeeding as some grand accomplishment. Well, maybe in the beginning when mastitis, night sweats, and cracked nipples are regular occurrences but then it just becomes this natural, sweet thing. It doesn’t work for everyone. It worked for me.

I nursed them at the same time. Holding each like a football. But by the end, two very gigantic, wiggly footballs.

Because I believe in full disclose, I want to share a snapshot of what my breasts look like after nursing four children over the years…

Okay, now you’re the insane one.

There’s no photo. Stop scrolling down.

I’m serious.

Stop looking for a photo.

The post is done.


45 Responses to how long did you nurse your twins?!

  • Ha! I don’t have “real” twins but 2 of my kids were just 10 months apart. (And they are actually “the same age” right now until the older one’s birthday in March.) With them (and the others) my milk seemed to dry up pretty consistently at just 3 months no matter what I did. I just switched my youngest to formula (at 2 1/2 months) and feel bad of course, but also happy that she is finally getting enough to eat so that she can sleep for more than an hour and a half at a time. It’s awesome that you did it WITH TWO!!!! for so long.

  • Steph says:

    ahhh… yes. i so relate to how you feel. to me, nursing was like a continued part of the pregnancy. I understand that it doesn’t work that way for lots of moms. but I relished it and it did seem like the end of an era when it was over.

  • Kerri says:

    Definityly bitter/ sweet! I nursed my twins for years, then the twins & their baby brother for years & him for years. I nursed for 10 years straight. Wow that sounds like a long time! I nursed my first two just under 2 years, my 3rd for over 2 years & my fourth for over 3 years (weaned a month before twins due so a couple of weeks before they were born). I was pregnant &/or nursing from 1989-2010 with 7 children. Just for some added excitement we also do foster care for children, including those with special needs. We have fostered two sets of twins among the total of 14 we have fostered so far. I LOVE IT!

  • HonestMum says:

    Well done you! My Grandma nursed my Dad until he was 7. OK, not 7 but 4. I know. He seriously can’t drink milk even now. You wouldn’t want the twins to feel like that now would you? 20 months is a huge achievement and one that’s made me stop being so self congratulatory about my 7 months. The breastfeeding award will now go into storage.

    • Kerri says:

      HonestMum…you should hang that breastfeeding award proudly!! 7 months is a milestone length of time for breastfeeding as well. Even the stats for breastfeeding just coming out of the hospital is till quite low, by 8 weeks significantly lower & 4 months, even less. Any amount of breastmilk your baby receives is wonderful! I didn’t technically nurse that long on my own. Breastfeeding is a relationship between two people! My children felt the need to breastfeed longer then others. At 19 months my very independent oldest would have nothing else to do with breastfeeding, her choice! I know what it is like to be judged as I was “judged” by some when I was bottle-feeding the infant twins I fostered. Those who judged assumed they were my biological children. I never want another mom to feel the way I felt on those occasions!

  • Jenn says:

    I loved nursing!!! The Bunny got bored at six months. Or decided there really were 9-t-something vitamins and minerals in the mix-it-up-from-a-tin version!
    She’s definitely a bright one! I would nurse again in a heartbeat… except I’m not having any more babies. Unless we win the lotto… in which case Hubby wants a boy. (See what happens when you put an order in and get it?… They think they can order all of them!)

  • Nursing…it’s hard to let it go, just like it’s hard to put away those baby clothes, knowing they won’t come out again until it’s time for (gulp) grandbabies. I hadn’t realized that I was nostalgic for babies until my last one started kindergarten…and then I was in a funk for a month. So miss the babies but then think about how much more fun it will be when you can take ALL the kids skiing! : )

  • KD says:

    You made my morning. I wish I could have seen the look on my face when you wrote you were going to show all. I could feel the horrified expression, but couldn’t see it. No disrespect to your glorious boobs πŸ™‚

  • annie says:

    I nursed my youngest about the same amount of time…knowing she was the last one, it was hard to say goodbye to that quiet time together. Good job mama!! Can’t imagine twins.

  • Mary Clare says:

    Yay for nursing and for writing about it! I hope that nursing past the infant months will become more socially acceptable here in the US as it is the norm in many places.

  • Becca says:

    Well done! And you aren’t alone in telling a little white lie about whether or not nursing is still going on!

    Sadly I can’t remember how long I nursed my oldest but it was around the 2 year mark I think. I really only remember how long I nursed my twins because I blogged about it being over! I nursed them for 32 months, although by then it was a once-a-night snack deal. I do know that my mom never asked me the “are you nursing still?” question because she wasn’t going to like my answer. In fact to freak her out I might tell her they still are…just to rile her up a bit. πŸ™‚

  • Sherry says:

    I so understand others thinking you are done nursing way before you were. For me people just assumed I was not nursing my twins anymore as they caught up from being premies to being the biggest kids their age and strong, strong, strong. I finally realized that they were done with the nightly routine when there was way too much wiggling more silliness than nursing going on. My boys were almost 28 months old and we changed nursing time into a snuggling story time. They still love to snuggle and be close and I’m so glad I noticed the signs it was time to stop, although I think I was the last one to notice!

    You have done a fabulous thing MOM!

  • I am struggling with this right now. My baby girl is turning one soon and I am feeling so much pressure to stop nursing her. I know that it gets weird as they get *too* old, but when is that? After 1 but before 3? Not such a helpful guideline.

    I am so happy for this post and all its comments – it lessens the pressure I feel to stop. Hopefully I can take it day by day and let this time come to a more natural conclusion.

  • Renee says:

    Good for you – that’s amazing! I nursed my youngest until 13 months, and, even though it feel bittersweet to stop, I quickly started enjoying getting my life back a bit more. (Also, coincidentally, he started sleeping through the night 48 hrs after I stopped nursing – coincidence, I think not…)

  • Dayna says:

    20 months is great! πŸ™‚ I nursed one of my twins til she was 18 months old- when she went on a nursing strike and never came back. πŸ™ I was very sad it ended so abruptly. Her twin sister just recently weaned at 25 months. It is hard when it’s all done- it’s such a special mommy & baby(s) time!

  • Wendy says:

    Way to go! I breastfed my son until he was nearly 3 (I was 4 months pregnant at this time and had to wean him). I had hoped to get my twins to 2 years, but one stopped cold turkey at 16 months, and the other one slowly weaned herself by 20 months. We have a very similar pillow at our house. πŸ™‚ My girls would only nurse tandem. And when only one was nursing, she insisted upon lying on the pillow in football hold too, so I had that pillow in constant use!

  • Jackie says:

    WOW That is awesome. I don’t get why people are so judgemental of others choices with their kids.

    After saying that I do raise my eyebrow at the people bf 4yo or older. But, then I think it’s not hurting me what do I care.

    When I was reading about you showing your girls to let us all see their glory after 4 kids I was praying that if you did show a pic that you would have to go to a link if you wanted to view it and not out for the world to see.

    When I kept reading I was cracking up. Thanks for the laugh.

    Have a great weekend!
    Jackie

  • Aunt Marcia (Guess Whose?) says:

    If I wanted to see some hanging and sagging tits, I can look at mine (and I NEVER breastfed any children). Show the twins who enjoyed the 20 months of mommy’s milk…that’s a photo to see.

  • Valerie says:

    Congratulations! Oddly, that’s exactly how long I went with my twin boys as well. And, I also didn’t share with many that I was still nursing them. Not that they would have been surprised, I’d nursed my older two until at least 18 months. I had two ez2nurse pillows, well-loved, but sold at the twins club sale last spring (they didn’t nurse on it after awhile, they liked to try and bowling ball grip each other’s facial features).

    Somebody is going to really love that pillow. Send it along to another happily nursing twin momma. πŸ™‚

  • Andrea says:

    I used that pillow for a few months and ditched it once they were out of the premature size and they were able to hold on. I nursed everywhere and used any kind of pillow(s), sometimes up to 10 LOL, whatever worked at the moment. I didn’t want to carry the big pillow but it came in handy to support their backs when they started to sit.
    I nursed for 28 months. One of my sons self weaned at 18 months and the other kept going until 28 months. I helped him wean because it was excruciatingly painful. I think that’s because I had nothing coming out. He was frustrated that he wasn’t getting any milk and nursing made him cry more. I didn’t see the point to continue since he wasn’t feeling good about it so we talked about it and stopped over a few weeks. Then I cried when we were done.
    This was my only healthy pregnancy that ended with healthy babies. The other 9 ended with mc and ectopic. I won’t be able to have more babies and I feel blessed that I was able to experience this and proud that I could nurse longer than my 2 year goal.
    I was always getting a kick out of telling people I was STILL nursing. Especially people who asked because they wanted me to stop. ;0)

  • Becky Rice says:

    My sister had the same experience with her third child as you did with the twins. It was hard for her to stop nursing and realize this part of her life was moving on to mothering her children, not mothering her babies.

    I didn’t scroll down to find the boob pictures. I swear.

  • Jen says:

    Oh my goodness do I get this one. Five children here.

    A mutual friend recommended your site (well, apparently she is a friend of a friend of yours). Glad I found you!

  • Kara says:

    Bravo! Bravo!

    I nursed my dd until she was almost 2 1/2. I’m sure most people thought we stopped before she turned 2. It was probably the most treasured aspect of our early relationship. I’m so glad we were so successful.

  • Riss says:

    This is a great post and such an important topic…so close to our hearts!
    For me, it’s been a journey with a lot of angst. I did blog about it if you want to read more, but the short version is:
    I had low supply in general-not enough for even one baby, and here I was trying to nurse two of them! It was a LOT of work doing breastfeeding, pumping and supplementing, but we made it to about 8 months, when the girls just really getting upset with me when I tried to nurse them, as they had started preferring the bottles. And at that point, I knew I was done, too. I considered trying to keep pumping for them, but I was so exhausted! Anyway, I’m so glad you were successful. I have heard that moms with older babies are often more successful with having enough supply for twins. I truly learned a lot from the whole thing and am SO glad we were able to do what we did. I’ve also been very cautious to always hold the girls when I feed them a bottle, so we still get all that good bonding time. I do NOT miss pumping…! Oh how I hated pumping, how your nipples get all stretched from here to kindgom come, and just the extra time it took me away from snuggling with my little babies.

  • Mama Mo says:

    Congrats on making it to 20 months with twins! My twin boys just turned 2, and we’re still nursing. I love it, they love it, and we’ll keep on keepin’ on. There are times I say no (like at preschool) and times I’ll say yes when they ask (like in a movie theater). The relationship changes as they grow older, and as the mama you know what’s best. Great post!


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