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My twins are turning one is 3 days. Which means the question, “You’re breastfeeding twins?!” has turned into, “Are you STILL breastfeeding your twins?!”

I happen to love nursing. Because it makes my babies completely happy. And I don’t really have to do anything except sit there.

To get that kind of satisfaction out of my bigger girls, I have to jump on the trampoline, give piggy back rides or dance like a maniac to “Cotton Eye Joe.” Have you ever listened to that song? It’s like crack, Red Bull and Donald Trump combined. It’s very tiring.

Although breastfeeding Chase and Harlowe together isn’t quite as relaxing as it used to be. One of them always finishes first and the other, instead of lying there blissfully staring at me (feeling blessed I’m sure for having such a caring, loving mother), beelines for the edge of the bed.

So while I nurse one, I pretty much do a lot of ankle holding with the other to keep him or her from leaping off the bed.

Is that too Michael Jackson-dangling-his-toddler-over-a-balcony-esque for you all?

Good thing I didn’t show you this one.

In my defense, no babies have EVER fallen off the bed.

Okay, well, Dylan did. But come on, that was six years ago and it was my FIRST baby. Your first baby always falls off once. I’ve been very careful since then.

The only thing that really keeps Chase and Harlowe on the bed (besides my tight grip) is my phone. But just recently, Chase actually managed to take the back of the phone off, remove the battery and was working on the sim card when I intervened. I can only imagine that he was prepping for an interview with Blackberry.

I don’t know when I’m going to wean exactly. Definitely before they go to middle school in case you are worried about me being one of those quirky moms who breastfeeds indefinitely.

Of course, once a year passes, and a mother is still nursing, she really stops talking about it. Because all those people who judge women for not nursing suddenly judge other women for nursing too long.

So as far as you know, I’m going to start weaning in 3 days.

Okay, sometime between 3 days and their first day of middle school.

mama bird notes:

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60 Responses to are you still breastfeeding your twins?

  • Beth says:

    OMGoodness…I totally nursed each of my 4 babies for over a year. My last was almost 1 1/2…I think it had something to do with the fact that she was probably going to be my last baby and it was hard for me to give it up. And, like your twinsies, she loved it, too. So…do what you feel is right for as long as you want and ignore the naysayers. I can’t imagine nursing two at once for this long. But, I don’t think you’re CrAzY…I think YOU ROCK! Nurse on, girl, nurse on! ;D

    P.S. And I’m SO with you on that insane Cotton Eyed Joe song! But I almost need to wear depends if I attempt to dance to it! And don’t even get me started about the trampoline…hahaha!

  • Kerri says:

    My twins nursed a long time…even through the next pregnancy & nursed all three for a long time too! No wonder my adult & older teen kids tease that I have to watch I don’t get my breasts caught in the zipper of my pants ( and I am an A- cup). So incredibly funny that at New Year’s when the kids were playing a word association game one of them said, “mom’s chest” and right away one of the other kids answered “concave”. Nice!!! Even nicer is that was that “concave” was the right word….arggg!

  • Heather says:

    In my group of friends, 18 months is pretty common and we wouldnt even blink if they were still breastfeeding at 2. Once they hit 3 though, it feels a little creepy. I kinda think it’s too old when they can say, “hey mum, flip your boob out for me!”

  • scrappysue says:

    you must have 3 hands, coz u still managed to take a pic – i’m impressed!!! i hope their first birthday is wonderful celebration – i bet you can’t believe it’s gone so damn fast!

  • Sue says:

    Awesome breastfeeding, you! I’m impressed.

    My 2 1/2 year old fell off the bed the other day, onto his face, while the health visitor (I love the NHS!) was here checking on my newborn. Good moment. He fell on his face 3 times in 3 days.

    I don’t think it counts when they’re 2 1/2, though.

  • Stasha says:

    Good on you. Great on your twins. And I love what you said: same people who judge for not nursing, judge for nursing too long. Your life, your family, your rules.
    How are you going to pack lunch in case you wait until middle school? See, sooner or later we gotta let go. Nature’s way…

  • Tammyq says:

    Kelcey it is so wonderful to hear about you continuing to nurse those sweet babies! I have a similar family, 2 older girls followed by twin girls – the ‘babies’ self weaned just before age 2 and I still miss nursing – I totally agree, it’s the only time I got to sit down!

    (and I think almost all my kids have fallen off the bed!)

  • tracy says:

    I am still nursing my almost two year old. Judge away, world. Pretty sure she will be done before college. Pretty sure.

    Also – Cotton Eye Joe is THE best dance on Wii Just Dance. I feel all slutty country cool mom roping up some steer – or something like that. ahem.

  • Sarah says:

    I say do it for as long as you and the babies want. I nursed my twins until they were 16 months old and I only stopped on the bad advice of a pediactric dentist or I would still be doing it(if they wanted) and they are almost five. When we stopped it was bad new for all. A month after stopping I started getting this headache that does not go away (I still have said headache everyday). They started to get more illnesses (nothing terrible but still they were sick). Once they started school the illnesses just got worse. I sometimes contimplate going and getting a pump and relactating.

  • Dayna says:

    I think it’s great you are still nursing your twins! One of my twin daughters just suddenly weaned (went from what seemed like a nursing strike to a full fledge wean) herself at almost 18 months and I am still happily nursing my other twin daughter. I wouldn’t be surprised if I nursed her until 2 or so. My oldest daughter nursed until 18 months when she weaned herself. I think it’s great! πŸ™‚

  • Bitsy says:

    It’s true about the first baby. Mine fell off the bed. Just once. And my second nursed past one year and I was sad when he weaned himself. I still miss nursing and it’s been a loooong time.

  • Alisa says:

    Good Job Mama! I just weaned my twins at 26 months.. (we only night weaned at 23 months.. so I was tired)… But I would have nursed them longer… I certainly got the “they are too old” comments.. but then people that make those comments have ZERO idea about the health benefits to nursing. I”m already worried about next winter. My twins are never sick.

  • Heather says:

    I am 10 years older than my brother and I once dropped him forehead-first onto concrete and he turned out (mostly) okay, so as long as you have a nice padded carpet you should be fine :).

    BTW, I remember when these babies were born! I can’t believe they are already one years old (in three days).

  • Jess says:

    Congratulations on nursing the twins until their first birthday! My little guy turned two a couple months ago and I’m pretty much a closet-nurser now because I just do NOT want to hear it from anyone. I don’t know when he’s going to stop. I just hope it’s before he starts kindergarten.

    You might enjoy this page on “Responses to ‘Are you still nursing?'” It’s good for a giggle: http://www.rosenbaumcreative.com/responses.html

  • Jodi F. says:

    My first self-weaned at 10 months. In retrospect, his personality was there from day one. He is now a very, VERY independent 17 year old. As in, he’d like to move to a big city and pretend that he has no family.

    The younger nursed a long time…over two years. And at age 12 he is still a very loving, people-centered kid.

    Your kids, your boobs, your decision.

  • Robyn says:

    Both my kids have fallen off my (fairly high) bed several times and have lived to tell about it. Well, when my 1 1/2 year old can speak in sentences, I’m sure he’ll talk about it.

    And, you are totally my role model for breast feeding if I have twins (I did it with my boys and always thought I wouldn’t be able to if I had twins, which run in my family).

  • Jessi says:

    Kelc – keep the boob milk flowing. But if you feel the need to start building a fort or compound for security to nurse the babes, we may need to talk πŸ˜‰

  • Satrina says:

    My boy self-weaned a month before his second birthday. I’m with everybody here: you decide when is the time to wean.

    Congrats to the babies for their birthday!

    PS: “Your first baby always falls off once.” Oh, so true!

  • Mama Mo says:

    Yep, I *still* nurse my twins at 15 months! There are no plans on stopping anytime soon (not even on a two-week-long trip to see my in-laws!).

    Your kids, your boobs, your choice. Keep nursing if you want to! Plus, there’s the whole passing immunologies on… gotta love mama milk!

  • Fordeville says:

    I am impressed by many things in this post — the nursing, the ankle grabbing, the fact that you can function enough to write. But, above all — how did you take the photos while nursing and baby-catching? Well done.

  • CB says:

    I’m still nursing my 25-month old before bed and first thing in the morning. It’s been a good 7 months since I actually admitted that to anyone because yeah, they think I’m nuts. Maybe I’ll wean her before our family reunion/vacation in July. Maybe.

  • Cville Valerie says:

    I laughed out loud through this post and had to close my office door! I’m with Jodi F. and the others on this one: your boobs, your kids, your decision. You ROCK for managing to keep it up for a year.

  • Diane says:

    Cancer stinx. I’m on my way over to offer good cheer and Pink Pockets. Best to you – and Happy early Birthday to the twins!

  • Aunt Marcia says:

    You might have a new career as a ‘wet nurse’ when you stop nursing the twins and still miss ‘nursing’.

  • red pen mama says:

    holy cats, that second picture has me in stitches, absolutely. He’s just hanging there like, “whatever, mom. move it along, harlowe.”

    babies like the edges of things. They don’t understand gravity. I have been trying to explain it to my 5-month-old ever since he started rolling over. And he still attempts to go head first off the couch. Babies!

  • Hey, congrats on making it to a year (nursing, but also just surviving twin infancy!). That’s huge!!! My girls turn 3 next week and they are still both nursing as well. We had a lot of struggles early on and supplemented up to 50% for most of their first year, but we just kept at it as it since we all enjoyed it. I feel strongly about setting limits for toddler nursing, which means for us we only nurse at home now, usually before bed/upon waking, or if they get hurt (but not always). When I started out I never would have expected to nurse a 3 year old, but now it honestly feels so right and normal, and I feel so lucky and blessed to have this special thing with my girls. These early years are so fleeting!

  • Kim says:

    I say nurse until it doesn’t work for you and the twins! I nursed my daughter until she was three. My friends, and family would make jokes, but it worked for Jade and I. Nursing is special, enjoy it while it lasts! Happy Birthday to Chase and Harlowe!

  • Vaashti says:

    I am so jealous you are still nursing! My son self-weaned at 7 months, and I cried for days (turns out, he had 4 teeth coming in at once!) Nursing is such a wonderful, intimate experience with your babies. “Milk it” for all its worth! (yuk, yuk, yuk πŸ˜‰

  • amourningmom says:

    1. Nurse however long you want
    2. Holding ankles is a great solution
    3. How is it possible that Harlowe & Chase are going to be 1?

    Going to check out Brandie’s blog. xoxo

  • I love the ankle-grip shot. I love even more that you happened to have your phone handy to snap the picture. And? All three of my boys have fallen out of bed. My bed. (more than once…) CHEERS TO RESILIENCY!!

    I am at the point with nursing where I whisper to my 2yo that I will take him in the other room to nurse him. And then he announces really loud and proud to whoever is within earshot “Mama’s gonna nurse me in the other room!” (Awesome.)

  • Julie says:

    Reason #7845 I ask myself why do I still live in the South:

    A bunch of breastfeeding moms are having a nurse in on Monday at city hall in Forest Park, GA. (Not me – I don’t live in FP and my kids are way too OLD) Local government is trying to pass a new law in metro Atlanta that will limit breast feeding in public.

    On Monday night, Forest Park passed a public indecency ordinance to prevent public nudity. Previously, the city only had a public indecency ordinance that covered adult entertainment businesses.

    According to the law, no woman can breast feed anyone older than 2 years old in public. City manager John Parker called the law a proactive step.

    β€œIt sets up a process whereby we can try to control nudity throughout the entire city,” Parker said.

    REALLY??!! Think about that the next time you decide to come down to Atlanta with the twins…and your kids.

  • Jill says:

    I had this idea that at 1 year I would hand sippy cups with cows milk to my twin girls, they’d give me a knowing ‘ah, the time has come, thanks for all the good milk mommy’ look, and they’d toddle off into the sunset, content to never nurse again. #foolishrookiemommynotion

    Needless to say, my girls had some strong feelings on the subject. Proving their points with a week-long boycott of ALL things sippy.

    They’re 18 months now, and still nursing (albeit only first thing in the morning). And the pedi has me so twisted up about the fact that they won’t drink whole milk (only skim, even 1% in their cereal results in a total refusal, I gave birth to two little milk sommeliers) and that they need the fat for their brain development, that I think I’ll probably keep going until the age of 2. And I’ll still be sad to see it end.

    Yay for going as long as feels right to you! And you’re a rock star for doing both at once, even now with them so active. I’ve never pulled it off.

  • melanie says:

    my baby is 14 months (already?!) and i’m still nursing but i ABSOLUTELY do not talk about it. i have definitely noticed that there is a limit for people to advocate breastfeeding. since my daughter seems unable to tolerate milk, i’m hoping to keep going for at least a little while longer (but don’t tell anyone).

  • Sarah says:

    Those lucky babies! Keep up the breastfeeding! You love it and they love it, so why stop? It is too cute how you are always holding an ankle! I nurse mine until age two or three– what a gift you are giving them!

  • Alecia says:

    I admire you for nursing twins for a YEAR! You are amazing! It is funny how after a year, people start getting judgmental about still nursing, I hadn’t really thought about that.

  • Jennifer says:

    Oh my goodness I love your blog, just came across it yesterday somehow and I have been reading older posts and you are cracking me up!! PS- don’t tell anyone, I am supposed to be working!! I keep laughing from my office and everyone thinks I am crazy! This post hit home, b/c I nursed my twin boys, (now almost 6 yrs old-YIKES) for 15 months. They were my last babies and it was so easy by then. My older two nursed for 9 and 10 months, so I nursed the twins as long as I could. My older two are a girl and boy, they were 3 and 4 years old when my twins were born, so I had 4 kids age 4 and under, so I totally relate to this blog, wish I had it back then!!

  • Karen says:

    I have tears in my eyes from loving and identifying with your sweet, quirky style. Good for you and great for your babies that you are listening to your self – rock on sister friend and nurse until you just don’t want to anymore. I know this post is old – but I just discovered you and I am thrilled. Liking you on Facebook now. I have 7 and live in the woods – this is my blog:
    http://girlonsaturday.blogspot.com – working on getting it as fancy shmancy as your’s. Thanks so much!

  • Karen says:

    Tears in my eyes from loving and identifying with your sweet, quirky style. Good for you and great for your babies that you are listening to your self – rock on sister friend and nurse until you just don’t want to anymore. I know this post is old – but I just discovered you and I am thrilled. Liking you on Facebook now. I have 7 and live in the woods – this is my blog:
    http://girlonsaturday.blogspot.com – working on getting it as fancy shmancy as your’s. Thanks so much!

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