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I’ve been melting down over the details of life. As you know, my phone crashed into the toilet and all my contacts apparently swam down the drain. Then, I had the absolutely brilliant idea to sell something on ebay. What a windfall, I thought! Finally, we’ll put a huge chunk of cash into our girls’ college savings funds. Except for a slight miscalculation in shipping.

I sold this baby carrier which turned out to be a very awkward shape. My husband and I logged about 5 man hours just finding a box to tape around that too-long-for-a-normal-box backpack thing. By the time I wrapped it all up, it looked so ghetto. I’m now convinced the buyers are going to completely diss my ebay reputation. I’ll never get in with the cool ebay kids now.

So I schlep that pathetic, dilapidated box to the post office and the clerk charges me a number of surcharges because of the awkward, too ginormous shape. End of ebay story: I netted 17 dollars. But forget about coming up with other ways to pay for my toddlers’ college educations. There’s no time. Because a baby is MIA.

We are talking a baby doll. 1 year-old Summer’s favorite. I can’t even get it out of her hands long enough to wash it. oh baby, that baby could really use a bath. Now what she needs is a GPS system. We know it’s in the apartment because I put it in her crib at nap time. We search. We ransack. We pillage. Nothing.

My husband and I become obsessed. We live in 1,200 square feet. There are only so many places to look. We pitifully search the same spots over and over again as if the baby doll will use her plastic head super powers to suddenly become visible to adults. I search places that even I need a chair to reach. Why would she leave us? Wasn’t she happy?

I am particularly panicked over bedtime. Not Summer. The girl is completely chill. She doesn’t want any replacement doll (we have plenty to offer). She goes to sleep without much fuss, with no baby doll hand to hold. I am sadder than she is.

Enter the doctor. A friend of ours happens to give Summer a belated birthday present the very next day. It’s a doctor baby doll. And this gal is macked out with a headband, blond ponytails, a beeper and stethoscope. She sings some loud, strange song about helping people as she runs down the street when she hears the beep, beep, beep. I’m horrified. Summer is intrigued. She spends the day tightly holding doctor baby’s hand.

Never underestimate the powers of a jealous doll. Suddenly, the original baby turns up. I find it. Rick finds it, right there on Summer’s window, hidden behind the shade. Didn’t we look there 16 times? I guess not. That night, Summer sleeps holding both baby dolls’ hands. Her universe has expanded.

3 year-old Dylan and I could really learn something from that gal. We are more prone to sweat the crumb-like, much smaller-than-a-missing-baby-doll stuff. We are both pledging to be more big picture and wait for the universe to expand and provide its riches. Or at least that’s what Dylan told me this morning.

mama bird notes

Planning a trip soon? Contributing mama Daphne Biener gives her colorful review of a recent trip to Mexico. Let’s just say, she gives you a whole lot more than you’ll find in any Fodor’s Cancun guide. Click on contributing mamas to read more.

Don’t forget to comment and send a post to a friend on the mama bird diaries this week. It’s all you gotta do to enter to win cool, free stuff from Little Green Star, Butterfly Buggas, “Daughter of the Bride” by Francesca Segrè, Herbal Serenity Show of Hands Instant Manicure and Sephora. For the dishy details, see posts from earlier this week.

Finally, for nyc mamas, the mom, of one of Dylan’s classmates, is in desperate need of a bone marrow transplant. Lisa Flynn Gershowitz, the mother of two young children, was recently diagnosed with Acute Myelogenous Leukemia. Despite 6 weeks of chemo, she is not in full remission. It is now critical for her to have a bone marrow or stem cell transplant. Finding a donor match is her only chance. You can get tested this Saturday (The most likely match will be from European Ashkenazi descent). They swab your inner cheek and it only takes a few minutes.

Saturday, January 19
The Jewish Community Center
334 Amsterdam Avenue between 75th and 76th streets
2:00pm-5:00 pm

Thank you mamas!

14 Responses to a cool, chill summer

  • Kelcey, I so hope that a match is found for your friend. My thoughts go out to her and her family!

    I love your story about the baby doll. It is so funny how WE get attached to the way something is, and our children show us, in no uncertain terms, how to go with the flow!! That Summer is a smartie!!

  • Abby Siegel says:

    I too am so sorry about your friend.

    As for the college financial aid planning, a colleague of mine who specializes in financial aid and myself will be holding a seminar on College Admissions and Financial Aid Planning in the next month or so.Anyone with children, no matter how young they are, should be putting money away for college as early as possible. If any mamas are interested in attending (it’s free) please email me and I will put you on the invite list. Open to anyone, esp.in NY, CT, and NJ. Should be an informative and educational experience.

  • sam says:

    summer is a very cool chick. love her and love how she helps you and dylan get more big picture. there are some amazing girls in this folbaum family! i know a match will be found for your friend, i’ll get the word out about sat. as well. xo

  • sam says:

    p.s. do you think you could look a little hotter in your profile photo??? no one can ever accuse you of sinking into frumpy mummy mode, that is for sure, you are one hot mama! love it, you inspire!

  • Kristen says:

    I am praying for your friend Lisa and her family. If I lived in NY, NJ or CT, I would be there. I am actually already in the donor registrar (they had a drive at Tulane when we were there).

  • Erin says:

    Sending prayers to Dylan’s classmates mom.
    ebay can be fun but yeah you need a plan B for their education :-} I am praying my little one has some type of scholarship in her!

  • Kerry says:

    keeping your friend in my prayers, kelce.

    it’s amazing how these little ones can teach us a thing or two about detachment. especially when we fear their worlds will fall apart when things aren’t in perfect harmony. we just got back from 4 nights in stratton and baby ryan was such a superstar being out of his environment. he even napped regularly at the childcare center, being put down by a total stranger! what relief as i made a few turns in the fresh snow!

  • mommywindow says:

    I really like your writing style, it’s so colorful! About the doll; when we were in the process of moving across country and looking for a house, we stayed at my dad’s. So we went from about 2000 sq to about 200 sq. My son managed to misplace his blanket. Now it is a travel size but he sleeps with it and it was lost! After the same search and resue efforts as you for the doll… we finally after THREE long days for his blanket stuffed into the bottom of a toy pirate ship… No one has any idea how it got into said pirate ship… Why do they put these very important things in almost impossible places to find? Oh yeah because they are toddlers… I almost forgot!

    I am also very sorry about your friend.

  • Aha! A fellow city girl! I call myself one still, even though I left the city when I went to college and haven’t lived there since.

    I saw 1200 sf and KNEW you must be in Manhattan.

    And this?

    We are more prone to sweat the crumb-like, much smaller-than-a-missing-baby-doll stuff.

    Me too, me too.

    (I’m sorry to hear about your friend.)

  • Jennifer says:

    I am cracking up at the doctor all, answer her beeper and the jealous baby doll, turning up just then. Love it.

    At the same time, I am so very sorry to hear about your friend. A good friend of mine beat leukemia about 15 years ago — she’s still healthy to this day. Good thoughts and wishes for the same outcome for your friend.

  • Shannon says:

    Sending positive vibes and ‘get well’ thoughts to your friend!

    Love the doll stories…Josh isn’t so chill and flips when ‘doggie doggie’ is hiding…We have a spare in the closet just in case he ever runs away or something (doggie doggie, not Josh) ;).

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