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When kids are little, the bedtime routine is almost a mantra. Bath, brush teeth, books, songs, bed.

Well, it’s more wrangle them into the bath. Then you promise you won’t get water in their eyes and then apologize for getting water in their eyes.

They will in turn promise to not splash water out of the tub and then have to explain why there are 3 gallons of water outside the tub.

Summer in bath

Once all this is completed, you try to convince them to actually get out of the bath.

Then you brush their teeth. Of course, the dentist says you should start flossing their teeth. But that seems ridiculous since you barely brushed your teeth as a kid and turned out fine. I mean, except for the cavities.

Then the books. You own so many amazing children’s books. But your kids will want to pick a Dora one, a Barbie one or a superhero one with absolutely no plot. You will promise yourself that you will hide these books tomorrow but of course you will forget which is why you have read, “I am Superman” 37 nights in a row.

Then songs. My 5 year old son has been making me sing the same two Christmas songs for a year and a half. He will not waver. I think a kid at school bet him that he couldn’t give me a nervous breakdown. And he was like – oh I sure can. Give me some time.

After songs comes the goodnight. Then a glass of water. Then goodnight. Then a quick back rub. Then goodnight. Then a mysterious just discovered very painful injury on someone’s finger. I can’t find any first aid ointment so I put strawberry lip balm on it and apparently this miraculously takes away the pain. Then goodnight. Then one more kiss. Then goodnight.

This kind of thing goes on for many years until one day it doesn’t. I don’t remember the day when my older girls (now 9 and 11) started taking their own showers. Or stopped sitting in my lap while we read picture books. Or when I stopped singing them songs. Or having to put strawberry lip balm on imaginary injuries.

But slowly, it just happened.

And what filled the space is probably the most important part of my day with them.

Sometimes I’ll read from chapter books we pick out at the library. Sometimes they can’t stop dancing around the room despite my pleas that it’s time to PLEASE CALM DOWN. Sometimes we play a card game. And sometimes we just talk.

The tween who has nothing to say after school suddenly has all kinds of things to share if it means just staying up a minute or two longer.

This is the time I learn things about them. The time I find out what’s whirling around in those growing brains. What’s worrying them. What’s exciting them. What they forgot to tell me.

And yes, this is also the time that I’m tired. And hungry. And kind of just want to watch my favorite TV shows. But I really try to hang tough and be with them.

Because the chaos of the day is over. And the quiet of the night hasn’t yet begun. And sandwiched in between is a short blip of time when I can connect with these forever changing people that I love so much.

I guess we do still have a bedtime routine. It just changed along with them.


When it comes to potty training, I start with the “do nothing” approach. It’s a great method because it involves no effort from me. The only small downside is that it rarely works.

potty training

I’ve been trying the “do nothing” potty training approach with my 2 1/2 year old son Cash and so far he’s really enjoying still going to the bathroom in his diaper.

I think I overheard him say to another toddler… “A bit bulky, sure. But you just can’t beat the convenience of this thing.”

I was pretty much getting ready to double down on doing absolutely nothing until fate intervened. One night, Cash was standing in the tub when suddenly his brother says, “Cash is peeing in the bathtub!”

I screamed (in a volume usually reserved for an ax murderer or a mosquito entering my house), “STOP PEEING!!!!!”

I grabbed him out of the tub and threw him on the potty. And a few more droplets of pee came out. Into the toilet.

This obviously called for a gigantic celebration. “Cash peed in the potty!!” I yelled as I danced around the house and gave all my children a chocolate rolo. (Why did everyone get one? Because I just couldn’t deal with the – Why does Cash get a rolo for peeing in the toilet when we do it multiple times a day and get nothing?!).

And then something even bigger happened. I know –  what could be bigger than all of this?

Well, while Cash was still sitting on the toilet, he pooped.

More rolos for everyone!!

I’m not sure Cash understood why he was sitting on the toilet or why his mother was throwing candy at him or why everyone was dancing around and applauding.

But he liked it!

Apparently as much as he likes going in his diaper which is what he’s done every moment since the big rolo celebration of February 2016.

But no worries, I’ve been snapped out of my do nothing mentality and gave him a pep talk.

For those ways too lazy to watch a video, here’s the recap…

I give a spirited and passionate speech on the virtues of potty training.

He says “yeah” a bunch of times like he agrees.

He’s clearly on board!

Or you know, maybe totally not.


<25 minutes past bedtime>

Me: Goodnight. Love you. Sleep tight.

Tween: Do you know who Jason Derulo is?

Me: No, is he in your class?

Tween: No. You don’t know who Jason Derulo is?

Me: Wait, is he an actor in that show you like – Ricky, Hickey, Mickey and Hickory Dock?

Tween: Nicky, Ricky, Dicky and Dawn. And no.  YOU REALLY DON’T KNOW WHO JASON DERULO IS?!!

Me: I guess… no.

Tween: How can you know who Drake is and not Jason Derulo?

Me: Because Drake is upset that I no longer call him on his cell phone.

Tween: You know Jason Derulo. We hear him on the radio. Get ugly. Yeah, get ugly, baby. Diddly, diddly, diddly, diddly.

Me: I really have no idea what you are saying right now.

Tween: Yeah, get ugly, baby. Diddly, diddly, diddly, diddly.


Me: The only thing I ever hear on the radio is that Sorry song from Justin Beiber. We get it Beibs. You’re sorry. We forgive you for throwing eggs at your neighbor and racing cars and all those tattoos so please stop singing that song. And I also hear that Adele song constantly. And that woman does have a gorgeous voice but she needs to stop calling a thousand times because no one wants to talk on the phone. Just text him Adele. Just text him from the other side.

Tween: Yeah, get ugly, baby. Diddly, diddly, diddly, diddly.

Me: We are going to start listening to more NPR on the drive home from school.

Tween: Diddly, diddly, diddly, diddly.

Me: Good night.

Tween: Diddly, diddly, diddly, diddly.


Upon further YouTube research (while my tween was finally sleeping), I learned that I’m quite familiar with many of Jason Derulo’s songs… like Talk Dirty to Me, Want to Want Me, and Whatcha Say. Apparently I do know this guy! And I can confirm that he’s definitely not in my kid’s class or on Nickelodeon.


When I became pregnant with our 5th child, I was told many many times, “Oh this one will have no choice but to go with the flow!”

And they were right. My 2 1/2 year old son Cash has an incredibly pleasant disposition. The kid barely ever cries and will exuberantly say hello to you a hundred times – especially if you are doing something super important like working on your computer to make a deadline and would prefer if a toddler didn’t help you with your powerpoint presentation.

But here’s what my son can’t seem to remember. I am old and I am tired.

But he is not.

Toddler with berries

Today I’m sharing a small list of things my son has done over the past couple weeks. Keep in mind, because of Cash’s determined effort to run free and hitchhike across America, our house is a fortress and we keep very close tabs on him. Like if we owed a parrot, the only thing it would know how to say is, “Where’s Cash? Oh there he is. Where’s Cash? Oh there he is.”

But despite our efforts, he still seems to squeeze in some very destructive activities or as he calls them, hobbies.  Often when we are cleaning up one mess, he takes the opportunity to create a new one in another location. The kid really know how to maximize his time.

Things my 2 1/2 year old had done over the past couple weeks:

Cleaned our toilet with our kitchen cleaning brushes. Yeah, the ones we use to clean the dishes we put food on.

Threw his shoes (and socks) out the car window which I did not realize until we arrived home. I said to him, “Where are your shoes?” And he said, “window.” So I give him credit for fessing up. I retraced our route and found them because Paw Patrol sneakers aren’t going missing on my watch.

Toddler shoe in road

He threw a bunch of throw pillows into a bathtub filled with water.

Somehow opened a bag of grout he found and scattered it throughout the first floor of our house.

Dragged a heavy box over to the alarm system so he could reach the buttons. Pressed as many buttons as he could until the security person came over the intercom and asked if everything was okay at the home. Cash is thrilled at this new discovery that a voice came out of that box. He is planning future conversations!

Poured a half a gallon of milk onto the table. I mean, he initially started pouring it into a glass but then just kept going. It’s not his fault glasses are too small to hold a whole carton of milk.

Washed his hair at the bubble station at the Discovery and Science museum.

Toddler at Discovery Museum

Squeezed out an entire bottle of shampoo and then when he heard me on the stairs, pulled out his sister’s Shopkins and played happily like nothing was up at all.

At the grocery store, he dug his fingers into raw pork chop before I could stop him. Raw pork. The kid is apparently not afraid of parasites.

Pumped out body lotion onto our bedspread and rug. Lavender scent if you’re wondering.

He requires us to wrap tape around the clip of his seat at dinner because he can open every clip out there. I tried just fastening the clip backwards and he looked at me like, “Woman, do you really think I’m that dumb?” I can say with confidence he’s not.

And finally, he just threw our landline phone into the tub. Which as you would expect, does not help a phone work better. But the upside, he didn’t electrocute the twins who were in the bath at the time.

So what can you do for me?

  1. Send me a bottle of wine (obviously I need it)
  2. Or share your own crazy kid story so I know I’m not the only one out there.
  3. Or reassure me that this is all a sign that Cash is going to be a future President some day.
  4. Maybe all of the above.





It’s a school day. Your kid wakes up and doesn’t feel well. But how can this be? You have things to do. You have appointments. They have school work. And important testing or maybe not important testing but they are testing something. You’re sure of it because you attended 6 minutes of the PTA meeting. So they must go to school. So you turn to your child and say….

Oh I’m sure you’re fine. You’re just sleepy. Shake it off.

Okay, what hurts exactly? Let’s sprinkle some magical fairy health dust on it.

What? You no longer believe in magical fairy health dust? I know for a fact they make it over there at the Department of Health and Human Services and that the Surgeon General himself whipped up this particular batch.

You do seem a little droopy.  Let me take your temperature. Where is the thermometer?

Found it under the US Weekly from June 2014!

Okay it says your temperature is 67 degrees. That doesn’t seem right. Is this in Celsius? How old is this thermometer anyway?

sick kid

I don’t need a stupid thermometer. I gave birth to you so I can tell your temperature by feeling your head. Feels like 98.6!

Look your clothes for school are right here. Let’s see how you feel once you put them on. The feel of cotton can do wonders.

Let’s get some breakfast into you. Nothing perks you up like a bowl of cereal with no milk. Why won’t you put milk in your cereal? It’s so much better that way. Okay, eat your dry cereal.

Honey, pick your head up off the table.

You’re going to miss your playdate if you stay home!

Being healthy is just about having the right attitude.

This is the first day of the rest of your life!

Wow, that’s a lot of snot.

Here’s a packet of tissues.

Hustle hustle hustle! You don’t want to miss the bus.

Why are you lying on the couch?

Let me get these shoes on for you.

Wait, are you snoring?

I’m starting to think you’re actually sick.

Are you trying to tell me something?

Fine, I guess you’re staying home.

kelcey kintner