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Jul
14
2014

I never know what to wear in Florida. First of all, you would not believe the amount of people wearing jeans in 90 degree weather with 100% I’mSeriouslySuffocating humidity.  It’s like they are pretending it’s not hot.

I want to scream out and say, “I see you in those jeans over there! I see the sweat dripping down your neck. Why do you hate shorts so much?!!” (Honestly, I do wear jeans in the Florida winter but it’s totally acceptable that time of year because it drops down to 83 degrees.)

And then there is the issue of “casual” attire. In South Florida, you don’t wear casual clothes to a casual luncheon. Apparently, a casual luncheon is a blouse/cute pants or a dress and wedge heels. Except if you meet for lunch at the gym. Then you can wear workout wear. Whether or not you have worked out.

Then this weekend I found out about appropriate attire for a shiva call. A shiva call is when you visit a family who is mourning the death of a loved one. It’s a Jewish tradition for the family to sit shiva for a certain number of days while friends come to pay their respects and bring baked goods.

You must bring baked goods. I don’t know why. You don’t bring alcohol. Or flowers. Or Belgian chocolates. Just baked goods.

So a friend of ours here in Florida lost his 97-year-old grandmother who lived a very long, beautiful life. The family was sitting shiva so we made plans to go over yesterday afternoon and pay our respects.

Me: What should we wear?

Rick: Casual. I’m wearing shorts.

Me: Are you sure that’s appropriate?

Rick: Yes. It’s Florida.

This was my opportunity to realize that my husband had no idea what he was talking about. But did I seize this opportunity? Did I say, “I don’t think so. This is a shiva call. We need to dress up a bit and not show up like the surfer family?” No, I did not.

Did I think to myself, “It’s far better to be overdressed than underdressed for any occasion?” No, I did not.

Did I remember the time my husband told me that at his parents beach house, “Everyone is totally casual all the time” and then I had a pair of cut-offs to wear when everyone got dressed up to go out to dinner. No, I did not.

I simply said… “Ok.”

And I wore this…

Kelcey shiva outfit

And when we arrived, I looked around at everyone’s far more appropriate, more formal non-shorts attire and turned and stared with desperate, pleading eyes at my husband that must have conveyed my discontent because Rick just said, “I’m sorry.”

And then my friend came up to us and said (and I swear this is the truth), “Did you guys just come from the beach?”

OMG.

Well, at least we remembered the baked goods.


Jul
10
2014

Ryan Gosling is expecting a baby with Eva Mendes! As I mentioned on Twitter and why aren’t you following me on Twitter, this seriously complicates my future imaginary relationship with him.

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I’m thinking that maybe he doesn’t see all the benefits of being with me….

 

kelcey in kitchen

vs Eva…

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(Honestly, it’s like we are twins.)

So here are some things for Ryan Gosling to mull over before he commits to a future with Eva…

I might not have that sexy Latin vibe but I do have that waspy tennis vibe.

I already have a husband so when Ryan’s away on his fancy movie shoots, I won’t be lonely!

Eva might be in movies but I go to movies! (Oh crap, I don’t even do that.)

Mendes is on Maxim’s Hot 100 and she’s has been named as one of People’s Most Beautiful at Every Age. I, on the other hand, won a high school typing award in the 80’s. I don’t mention it all that often because I don’t like to intimidate you all.  

Eva was born in Miami. And I live in the Miami area which is not better at all so delete that one.

He likes older women. Eva is only 40. He can do older!! I am older!!

Like all the women he has dated… Sandra Bullock, Rachel McAdams, Eva Mendes… I am a brunette. I mean, I could be. Give me 20 minutes and a box of L’Oreal Paris.

Yes, Eva’s now 7 months pregnant with his baby but I have been pregnant for a total of 36 months in my life so 36 is more than 7… so there.

Okay, I think I’ve proven that I am a worthy contender. Ryan, I’m waiting for your decision. Our imaginary future depends on it.


Jul
09
2014

1. I’m sure they do background checks on your kid’s counselor, right?

2. I heard you get charged by the camp every time you refresh the photos on their website.

3. How do you know your child is actually brushing his teeth. Like ever?

4. At my husband’s camp, they had this thing called bush time where you could go in the bushes with your camp boyfriend or girlfriend.

5. So for the cost of one kid to go to sleep away, you could have had an insanely awesome trip to Europe for the whole family?

6. You must feel so free! I bet you are loving it!! 7 weeks of freedom baby! Hey, why are you crying?

7. Counselors aren’t allowed to date the campers, are they?

8. Since all your kids are at camp, could I could send a couple of mine over?

9. I’m sure the meals are organic. They probably just don’t advertise that because they don’t want to seem snobby.

10. Did you hear about that mountain lion sighting? In the Poconos? Or was it in Maine? I can’t remember.

11. Do kids buy their own beer or do you send it in a care package?

12. I’m sure the time will fly by! Wait – it’s only been 3 days, it seems like a lifetime and you feel like your right arm has been cut off? Well, my husband says sleep away camp was the defining experience of his childhood. And good news…I think there is a new Bachelorette on tonight!


Jul
07
2014

When you return home for a visit, it will seem perfect. Like I went back to New York a few weeks ago and it was 72, sunny with no humidity almost every day. I should have hired someone to follow me around with a bucket of snow and throw it in my face every couple hours to help me appreciate Florida. Next time.

Real friendships take time to develop. And friendships are hard to predict.  Don’t discount a cool girl just because you overheard her having a ridiculous argument with her husband over peach pie. (Not that I would ever argue about peach pie.) (Okay, it was definitely me.)

You must accept all invitations because even though an invite to go late night roller skating meant you nearly ended up in the middle of a teenage turf rumble in a sketchy parking lot, it could have been a great night of couples’ skates and nachos at the snack bar.

Just when you think you finally know where you are going, you will spend 25 minutes lost in your own development.

For the first time in your life, you leave notes for your husband like, “Just saw a lizard under the blinds. Before you come upstairs, take care of it.” He will claim he “couldn’t find it.” Despite his long history of honesty, you will sort of not believe him.

You will meet potential friends, become friends on Facebook and then get a birthday notification that they are 26 years old. This will make your 40 something self weep. You will be forced to block their Facebook updates.

You will find yourself in funks at times. Don’t try to cheer yourself up by clicking on those links, “Celebrities without makeup!” First of all, half of them are wearing makeup unless shiny lips the color of candy apples is now a natural pigment and the other half look gorgeous without makeup.

You will try to convince yourself that you don’t need friends and that Monica, Rachel and Phoebe, although a bit dated in their overalls and big sweaters, are enough. You must persevere and find real friends. Ones that aren’t on 90’s sitcoms.

The first mom who asks for a Friday afternoon playdate, that involves wine and appetizers, has serious potential.

Know your elevator friendship pitch. Like mine could be, “I have 5 kids, I once got 10 cavities from eating too many hard candies and I make great monkey sounds! It’s so nice to meet you!!” I would suggest you come up with something better than that.

It always gets better. You really can’t judge a place until you’ve been there a decade. Just kidding. It really takes about 2 years. Eventually it will feel like home. Or something like home.

 


Jul
04
2014

This week, I dropped my two older girls at camp, threw the 3 little ones into the car and was about to head to the pool when I realized… the car was dead.

I had already parked in the fire lane so how fitting that I had a true emergency on my hands!

Back in my naive twenties, I would have actually called AAA and waited for an hour and a half until a greasy guy named Al showed up (no offense to all the non greasy Al’s) to jump start the car.

I called AAA a million times in my twenties and never once had a hot guy show up which I think is a very underreported form of discrimination because the company is obviously not hiring handsome people. I always meant to look into that but then I got distracted by important stuff like “Melrose Place.”

Once I realized the car was dead, I called Rick who was on his way to a very important haircut. Important because if he doesn’t get it cut, it gets very poofy and then the fine folks from CBS in New York have to call all the way down here to Miami and remind Rick that he really needs a haircut because it’s not 1978.

But thankfully Rick delayed his haircut and showed up to help me. We took out the jumper cables. Connected the red to the red. Connected the black to the black. Bam! The car caught on fire.

Seriously, why do you underestimate me?

No, it did not catch on fire. The car started! So I headed off to the pool with the kids.

While we were at the pool, I let the car run for an hour in the parking lot. I was secretly hoping my used gold minivan would be stolen but unfortunately people were too busy swimming and enjoying their non-minivans to steal my car which is a real missed opportunity for them.

I finally shut off the engine, went back to the pool and returned a bit later. At which point, I found my car…of course, dead.

As luck would have it, Rick was back with his new sporty hairdo, swung by the pool and we jump started the car again.

You know – I’m no auto mechanic, but I started to wonder if maybe there was something wrong with the car.

We brought it to the shop and yes, it did indeed need a new battery. Which I was told was good news because that meant it didn’t need a new starter or new sun roof or something. Honestly, I wasn’t really paying attention.

I got the car back by 1:30 pm. I know, all this happened by 1:30 pm! If you can jump a car twice before 1:30 pm, imagine what you can do the rest of the day! (I accomplished nothing the rest of the day.)

Wait, did you click on this post to find out how to jump start a car? Sorry. These are the instructions, although please keep in mind that I am not a car expert or really an expert on anything.

1. Put the hood up. Finding the latch that pops the hood is seriously the hardest part.

2. Find some poor sap in the parking lot who can help you by parking his car facing yours. If he pretends to have an urgent dentist appointment, talk about karma, paying it forward and random acts of kindness. Mention that woman who just bought a stranger $120 worth of diapers. Certainly, he can give you 5 minutes.

3. Get out the jumper cables.

4. Put on your goggles and your gloves.

5. Obviously, you don’t have goggles or gloves.

6. This is the part where you really have to pay attention. Connect the red clamp to the positive (red) terminal on the dead battery.

7. Connect the other red clamp to the positive (red) terminal on the good battery in the other car.

8. Connect the black clamp to the negative (black) terminal on the good battery.

9. Connect the other black clamp to a piece of grounded metal on the dead car.

10. Do not do any of this if you are color blind.

11. Start the engine of the good car. Then start the engine of the dead car.

12. Remove the jumper cables once the car starts. Do this in the reverse order in which they were attached, and don’t let any of the cables or clamps touch each other.

Got it?

Nervous?

You know what? Never mind. Just call me. I’ll do it.



kelcey kintner


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