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I would love some tips on disciplining and handling my 3 year-old.  I need some ideas on dealing with her when she is stubborn/whiny/tantrums/hysterical (you know, normal 3 year-old behavior). What works and what doesn’t?  I would love specifics. Thank you. – Natalie

8 Responses to Any discipline ideas for my 3 year-old?

  • The only thing that got me through that horrid year 3 was a thing my pediatrician told me when I called hysterical–She said, and i quote "everyone would institutionalize their 3-year olds if they could. Just wait it out." And damn if she didn't turn that corner just as the light of her fourth birthday started to shine on the horizon!

  • izzy's mama says:

    Read The Happiest Toddler On The Block…The suggestions in that book really work. Not only did they work with my child but I have seen them work with countless others. It is all about getting down to your child's level and empathizing in child speak. Many moms are afraid to do it but it will truly amaze you if you do.

  • Shannon says:

    Try the book, How to Talk So Your Kids Will Listen…Here's a link: http://www.amazon.com/How-Talk-Kids-Will-Listen/d
    I agree with Izzy's Mama – it's about being empathetic and getting down on their level so they feel heard and respected. Some of the techniques have turned tantrums into talks for us…Also, whenever Josh is acting "crazy" I breathe a sigh of relief to know that his behavior is normal – In a way, I just laugh inside at some of his behavior and am just glad he is going through all the normal developmental stages…Hang in there…

  • Natalie says:

    Thanks everyone. How about some specific tips? Say, what do you do when you're already late for preschool and your child REFUSES to get dressed (I'm taking the "physically wrestle them into their clothes" approach right now which is no fun).

  • Betsy says:

    I have some luck when we turn things into a game. Can you get your clothes on before I get my shoes on? Encourage as much good behavior as you can and praise it, praise it, praise it. Try giving little rewards when clothes are put on before a certain time. You can heve pretzels in the stroller if you get you are dressed before the timer goes off. Try rewards you would give them anyway, an extra book at bedtime, 5 min of dancing, etc. Warning, you may have to experiment with the rewards. m The meltdowns can get worse when they do not earn them and you follow through.

  • Kristen says:

    Natalie, Thanks for asking the question because there are days when I am struggling with my three year old. To everyone else, I appreciate the advice given! I would love to hear other ideas as well.

  • my children have always done anything for marbles, and they love their personal collections….get her a jar or container for her room, then reward her with a marble for good things (bag of marbles at Michaels=$1) My kids obsess with their marble collections.

  • A Mommy says:

    Save something really special for the end of the day (her favorite 1/2 hour tv show, a special dessert, whatever she loves). When she won't get dressed, tell her that she will lose her Wonder Pets or whatever if she doesn't get dressed. Works for my kid.

kelcey kintner